Fed up 🥹

Honestly men just don't have that motherly instinct that we have. They genuinely don't think the way we do. He probably thinks lying on isn't doing anything wrong when it just makes us resent them for being lazy and not helping. My partner is fab with the baby but when it comes to nights he would sleep through him screaming like he literally never hears him. They sleep soundly because its not in then to wake up to the baby. Its Tiring but it'll not be forever. I'm also not saying the way men is, is OK I'm just saying they need direction and to be taught do this or that with baby they just don't automatically do things the way a mother instinctively does x

I just never realised how hard it would be to be a mum.. because I thought I’d have a partner who helped I mean on weekends he does the bare minimum too.. I don’t ever get a break. Maybe 30 minutes but then he’ll moan he’s heavy to hold. It’s just really sad and I’d rather be a single mum than be in a relationship & the whole world think he’s a great dad x

Breathe and consider a walk, out for a coffee or something just to get out for a little. Easier said than done and last thing you want when tired i know but it will help. Every couple go through this in some degree and it can only be resolved by talking/ working it through. Try if you can to have some baby free time together, it helped us when we hit this bump first time x

Now that's wild. He should definitely want to help or cuddle baby or play with baby. It is definitely hard work. I've done every single night feed from my wee man was born. Not had an 8 hour sleep for months and he'll come in from work and sleep solid for like 8-10 hours. I'm just used to it I'm over it that I'm the main parent atm its hard but also so rewarding. I try to get out every day walking go for coffee go swimming so I'm not stuck at home feeling down. I really don't think men mean to cause us upset they just don't think the same as us xx

Oh I’m sorry you’re going through that. It’s definitely not easy. Tbh I would stop doing anything at all in the house (cooking, cleaning, etc) and use that time to rest if possible. Then communicate to your partner that he needs to do those things since you do everything else. You’re probably overtired and fed up, but it would help to have the conversation when you’re not feeling too emotional so you can word it in a way that he doesn’t see it as a personal attack and can be more receptive.
Big hugs 🫂

He goes to the gym but moans the baby is too heavy?! Make it make sense
He needs to pull his weight.. he’s a dad. You’re tired from your full time job of being a parent. He should be helping out more. Let him know how you feel and what you want to see change

Honestly, this isn’t an ‘all men’ thing as some men are absolutely brilliant and do more than their fair share , it just sounds like he either had no clue or unfortunately is very selfish and doesn’t care enough about you and Bub.
If it were my hubby I’d tell him in no uncertain terms how I feel, and what I need/expect him to do to help. You’ve just got to say, or ask! If you want an hour sleep before he logs on, tell him.
If nothing changes then you probably have to think whether the relationship is right for you.

Thank you so much everyone for your replies. I know not all men are the same and I’m very envious of the ones who are amazing dads. We’ve had multiple conversations and quite frankly I’m fed up of having them. I know one day I will just wake up and say I’ve had enough. X

God, I wouldn’t be able to do baby care, cooking, cleaning and the night feeds. You must be exhausted ❤️

I am exhausted 🥺 I had a little cry today for the first time in weeks! I’m very much sleep deprived 🥲❤️

Just seen this, send him this video! Hopefully this would help him understand your needs! 🫶🏻 https://www.instagram.com/reel/C501nz9LSsC/?igsh=MmxnaHNuNmUxaHlv

just watched this! Thank you so much for the video ❤️

My pleasure. Really hope you come to a resolution xx

thank you so much! Xx