Sex - AITA?!

I understand how you feel 13weeks pp and we've had sex twice I just don't feel it I sleep on the sofa as my lil one won't sleep in his cot so we co sleep and he gets annoyed but I feel he doesn't understand lost out our bodies to share we go threw trauma and you just don't want sex when you've either pushed a baby out your vagina or a baby has come out the sun roof either way men should be more understanding your not the asshole xx

You're not the asshole. He is. You've already got a baby, you don't need a man baby on top of your mountain of existing responsibilities. The mood swings he's giving you are unacceptable. Essentially throwing a tantrum because you won't give him sex. Support isn't just physical, it's emotional too and he sounds like he gives a severe lack of it.

Urgh I don’t understand why some men don’t realise what a turn-off it is to watch an adult sulk because they are not getting laid! It’s so lame!

You are not the worst partner, you are a woman healing from child birth keeping a baby alive and cared for. In short you have bigger stuff to deal with. He can grow up and sort himself out until you are ready.

I had my first at 18 ( now 23 )and completely lost mine 100% I had no interest in it what so ever. However over the years the nicer my partner was to me the more I was into doing it. Not all the time but it helped a little. I’ve now had my 2nd 3 months ago and I’ve been abit more into it now. However since he’s gone back to work and is having his own issues (mentally) I feel like I’m fighting a battle with myself at home and with my kids 24/7 with no breaks and feeling like I’m doing everything all the time that it’s kind of mentally draining and I haven’t been wanting to do it again…
I think it’s all to do with how you are feeling mentally. So yes if you’re drained and exhausted and overstimulated that could well be the reason for it not being there, plus your partner being in a mood with you won’t help that it will just affect you more ❤️

You are not the asshole - while sex is important in a relationship, you shouldnt feel pressured especially in such a sensitive period - mentally physically. Youre a saint for even offering a BJ. I barely have time to pump, sterilise, feed rhe baby sleep, and shower. Eating is a privilege these days lol, and for you to even engage i think thats a huge sacrifice as im sure you had other things to do with the little time you do have. Honestly men suck sometimes

Disclaimer- i had sex maybe 2-3 times during my entire pregnancy as i found it painful and only once since giving birth. Sex is THE LAST thing on my mind and if my husband doesnt understand that he’s more than welcome to take care of himself lol

I totally relate. My partner is the exact same and when I try to explain to him that I am touched out from being with the baby all day his response is always “fine I’ll never touch you then, we will just never be intimate again”. It puts you off more when they are being so sulky about it.

@Liberty my partner is like that talks to the baby and is like I'm not allowed to touch all that (never said he couldnt) just stop being a c**t like men are assholes tbh x