How do you react when your partner checks out other girls ass etc ?

just want to know if im the only one that can’t have this type of behaviour in family life…

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Look with him. Neither of us ogle though. That’s a limit, don’t be creepy.

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mine is not allowed and if i catch him he not sleeping at the house and not hearing the end of it lol

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I’ve never seen mine actually do it I think i always look tho😂

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Um, no, if they aren't 100000% about me, then they can feck right off. I don't check anybody out even when I'm single. I think it's gross and disgusting. In a relationship I believe you should only want to see your partner, nobody else, otherwise your partner obv isn't enough for you lol. That and it's disrespectful. That's what I think anyways, I instantly think a girl is a mug if her partner checks out other girls

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Exactly me… accidentally caught him checking out not one but two girls in a space of 20min… Now i am the one thats apparently spying on him😂😂 will say anything to get himself out the situation… however it was like umpteen convo about it and i just decided im not having this… coz as you said…im a mug

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We don't own our partners .... they're a whole human lol. Allow them to use their eyes how they like as long as it's not disrespectful....

I look from time to time ... and would hate for someone to tell me what I can and can't look at

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If he turns his head 360, then I'm leaving. Not dealing with. If you want to look at other women like you aren't in a relationship, then go ahead.
If it's a glance, then I don't care.
I checked out other guys but did not stop stare.
Once you're in a relationship, there are boundaries that need to be placed.

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The problem I hate that comes along with it is I’ve had partners before that go “I can’t help it when she’s got her boobs out etc”. But they can. It’s called self control and I also think that if society didn’t sexualise the way people have been then we simply wouldn’t have this issue. People should be able to dress how they want without being looked at like that. To me I just think it’s a body like hundreds of bodies on this world what does it matter. It may be different to other people’s relationships but if it’s something you don’t like I’d just talk to him about it simply and tell him how it makes you feel. I do tend to walk around and think oh wow that woman or man is really beautiful but I don’t feel sexual about it or look at them like I’d wanna be with them it’s just a general like wow that person looks so nice/is so pretty etc. And I wouldn’t mind if my partner agreed about that with me. Staring at people’s body parts is wrong to me. I see people as people

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A slap on the head

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I don’t really care so much for myself, more so for the other woman. I hate when men look at me and ogle, even if they try and be discreet men aren’t very good at subtlety generally, and I’d hate the idea of my partner making another woman feel uncomfortable 😣 he’s only human so if he was very discreet fair enough

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We look together lol. We actually point some out to each other and guess whether they are real or bbl 😂

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I can’t say I’ve ever seen him do that.

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We both look there in nothing wrong in looking as long as you don't touch

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yes this is me and my husband 🤣

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we do the same thing lmfao

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we do this too 😂 both guys and gals we will do with different features. We’re both avid people watchers though.

Funny story but somewhat related to this post, first time my husband saw his now direct boss at a different store he noted to me (quietly) that it looked like he painted on his clothes or shopped at baby gap cause his clothes were so tight. The guy ended up switching to his store and being his direct boss and because of the dynamic of the job he eventually told him to his face what his first impression of him was 😂 they’re basically best friends now especially since his boss now switched to a more complex store after a couple years working with each other.

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Either look too or mock him for him for it, honestly depends on if I agree if the girl is worth checking out 🤣

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