Husband sleeps while watching baby

I came home today to my husband asleep, baby in the living room screaming because he was in a poopy diaper, and in his bouncer in the living room. Dad was asleep in bedroom. This is not the first occurrence. I’ve come home to him just leaving the baby in his crib watching tv while he’s out of the room doing his own thing like the baby doesn’t exist!

He works nights so I understand why he’s so tired, but still do you think it’s okay? I sure don’t! What do I do? It’s like I can’t even trust him with his own son.

But again I understand why he’s so tired, he sleeps 2 hours at work, 2 hours when the baby sleeps during the day, and 2 hours before he works. This has been his routine for the past few weeks now and I can see it getting to him.

I stay home with the baby at night and he does during the day but he doesn’t get any sleep really, not consistent anyways.

But that’s still not an excuse when I can hear our child screaming in pain from outside because he’s in a poopy diaper and developing a rash because of it.

Let me know what you think and what I should do

(We also can’t afford daycare right now and parents are out of the question)

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I'm with you on this, this is unacceptable. I can understand that he is tired, and I empathize with being exhausted because when you don't have family near by to help with childcare, it's so hard... but this is just neglectful.

You said he left the baby in the crib watching tv while he was out doing something else in another part of the house? So it's not just while he's fallen asleep?

Can you get a sitter for 3 or 4 hours during the day so your husband can take an uninterrupted nap?

This is not safe for baby. You need to find a way for someone else to watch baby while he is home sleeping. No one can survive on this little sleep broken up into chunks. He’s not right to do it, but baby’s safety comes first.

Yeah that’s not okay & would really me question his parenting as a whole. I get the sleep thing is hard but can you guys afford a sitter for even 2 extra hours maybe? On the low end $15 an hour for 2 hours a few times a week may be a good option.

Why should he get a babysitter responsible is responsible it's a baby you have to understand that they did not ask to be here that is just unfair and carelessness
Even me that is a stay at home mom I can't fall asleep while my son is still awake I always have to watch him I can't even leave him for a second because he will find something for his mouth

Why doesn't he sleep in the same room with the baby? Being in a separate room is pretty messed up.

Sounds like baby needs daycare. It is unacceptable for him to sleep while taking care of the baby and super dangerous. That being said, sleep is a demand for the body. You can’t fight sleep for so long and his schedule is leaving him ridiculously sleep deprived. There is so much research about sleep deprivation, psychosis, poor mental health outcomes, and an inability to regulate emotions that you guys can’t keep this up. No one is safe in this situation. I can’t stress that enough.

Wow this is unacceptable, I fully understand understand the sleep deprivation. I work 10hr nights 4 days a week while my husband works 9-10 hr days 5 days a week. We don’t share any days off but he has 2 days off on days that i work but that was a recent changed so now i get the sleep i need. But my point is, prior to that, i get home at 5:30am and he leaves at 7am baby wakes up at 9-9:30am. If i fall asleep( if i’m lucky) by 6. I’m still responsible for waking up with my son and i did everyday, no matter how tired i was. It sucked but i would only hope i had time to nap with him during the day. That had to be enough to get me by. Some days i didn’t get the nap and working a demanding job like mine of 3 hrs of sleep sucked. But, men just don’t have the mentality we do. I say all this to show you that you’re not alone. I really hope y’all can figure out a better schedule for sleep/work. If possible maybe even change shifts or find a babysitter for a few hours so he can rest. Good luck!

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