Does the pain ever go?

It's been more than a year of trying after a miscarriage. Everyone at work is pregnant. I'm constantly being asked when I'm having a second. My sister in law is now pregnant. Everybody is pregnant and it's breaking my heart.

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I wish I could say it does. I've been trying for 3 years. The first 2 years were the hardest for me because I just kept questioning why me and was grieving the dream of having another. The pain had gotten a little less over the past year because I stopped testing and all and just figured what happens, happens. I am starting to get to a spot of acceptance. I've been focusing more on my work and planning vacations in my life and all to try and spark some joy. I can say, though, that certain events still trigger painful emotions. You're not alone ❤️

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I wish I could say that the pain goes away. I wish it would go away. Just know that you’re not alone in it, even though it feels very lonely.
I’m 18 months trying now, 2 chemicals and 4 failed IUIs. It’s frustrating and heart breaking. Each pregnancy announcement is a gut punch. But we hold hope, and I hold hope for you that one day you will get your rainbow ❤️

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I feel this in my soul right now. Been trying for less than a year, but I’m an older mama in her 40’s. Sister-in-law just announced hers and my husband’s best friends sister. I thought I was pregnant this time, but it’s seems I am not. I’m so so happy for them, but all the while my heart is breaking. I see you. I hear you.

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