Boyfriend has barely spoken to me today

I hate men. My husband is leaving me and we have 3 little kids. Your gut is probably right, unfortunately. I’m so sorry. But I keep telling myself that I can’t make him love me again, I can’t make him change or be who I need him to be.
Keep being strong and find people to spend time with, with or without the kids. Sucks that the women have to do it all

I think he sounds depressed and stuck, and as his partner I would suggest you get him to the doctors or to a therapist. There’s a lot going on here, and him not resolving his is going to spiral and affect your relationship.

Yes therapy is good! If you can afford it or have good insurance. My husband did that too. Men go through mid life crisis too and some can push through and stay connected and some can’t. There is an app that he could try. Not sure if he’s open to it

Due to trauma from past relationships, I always think it’s another woman or someone leaving because it’s happened. As well as horror stories on the news about the “quiet” types. He doesn’t have an anger issue, but he gaslights and avoids conflict at all cost. But I literally see him playing some baseball game or royal match. Or applying for jobs. No jobs are calling in response to his applications anymore. He’s had several interviews.

I called and got myself therapy yesterday. I go Monday. He can’t see a therapist because he has no health insurance.

I agree with the women have to do it all statement though. I left when I was pregnant. For a whole year I took care of my two kids alone. It was hard. But we were happy, I knew they were safe. Some girl convinced him as well as other guilted him into being involved. I wish people would stop pushing others to do the right thing. It makes them do something they don’t want to do, and the children end up paying for it because they notice.

I feel for you. Good for you getting therapy, I started as well to process this new stage in life that I never thought I’d be in.

But yeah, he had the audacity to say he made sacrifices. Lol he was buying game consoles on dating websites saying he had no children. While I was sleeping on the couch so my boys could have their own room. While I’m going without so my boys will have the things they need and( some things they want lol I love seeing my kids happy)

My oldest has been acting out a lot more since he’s come back into our lives. He didn’t meet his own child until the child was 11months old. He gets upset with me when I bring this up but he made the choice to abandon us and let me go.

I was there for those kids when I was sick. He lays on the couch and acts like he can’t move when he gets a little sniffle. Has only changed one diaper. My baby is almost 2. If the baby is about to do something that could get him hurt he yells for me to come help when he could pick him up. 🤦‍♀️ I feel like I have 3 kids instead of 2

Oh girrllll. Run! 🫣 all we can do is raise our boys the very best we can! Sending you strength ! Talk to your therapist ❤️

Hmmm seems like we all have me problem I’m leaving mine but he doesn’t know it yet, I’ve been disrespected, verbally abused, I tried counseling he said he doesn’t need it, my last straw was wen i actually left my keys at my mothers place 4 hrs away went for a walk, came back he was not home called him he said he’ll be home in 30 minutes, waited in the parking lot, was on the phone with his sister, he came back I saw him going in to the apartment with our son an he came back down while driving I waved at him he ignored me drove fast, tried to enter the house door was locked called him he ignored my call left me Outside, that’s when i said enough I applied for a job got my first interview they asked for a second I’m going back to the city where my support is. I’m taken my son he’s gonna come home one day and I’ll be gone.

The reason I left was because he kept trying to have sex with me ONLY when my oldest was asleep next to me. I told him to stop. The last time he tried it, I felt his hand touch my son, as my son was laying directly on my arm. He said it was a misunderstanding. I gave him another chance and sat boundaries. But then a few months ago, he was playing with the kids, and tickling them. This went on for about 15 minutes and he suddenly went to the bathroom for about 25 minutes. He didn’t use it. I brushed it off at the time. But then after that he started tickling ME everytime before sex. After about the 7th time, I noticed this. And I brought it up. Only asking why does he tickle me before sex lately. He said he didn’t know, just playful he guessed. But then he quit doing it. A lot of people probably thinking why in the hell I’m with him. I have no good evidence. I was m0le stead as a child. And I never thought he would be this type of person. I’m still questioning it and am going to -

-bring it up with my therapist on Monday. I can’t tell if I’m being irrational or not. I don’t feel like the kids are safe alone with him. But if I break up with him, he can take me to court and get visitation. Then he will have my child alone. Before when we talked about coparenting he urged me to allow my oldest to go over his house. I kept feeling like he was trying to get him alone before we broke up the first time too, and now with the coparenting thing, I feel he is still wanting to do so. He’s been angry with my oldest lately too and it’s been kind of irritating me because he is autistic and has adhd. He literally cannot help control himself. And big things have been going on with moving and being out of school for the summer he is still trying to adjust. I just want to protect my children. And I feel like I’m failing them with any way I go about this.

Our situation is so similar omg 😔 what is going on with These men 🤦🏾‍♀️