Anyone else getting push back from their partner?

Yes - at times when it’s been tough. I’ve been ebf for three months now and it does get a million times better I promise!
Whilst fed is best, also of the belief that informed is best too. Pointing him towards some evidence on the benefits of breastfeeding but also the myth busting science around it too might be helpful. All the babies on my husbands side have been bottle fed and it’s been helpful to explain how bf actually works: supply and demand, etc

It gets so much easier! It’s so much better for baby. I would ask your partner to educate himself on the difference and why what’s happening is normal and just a phase.

I didn’t deal with this because breastfeeding was non negotiable for me and I always knew that’s what we would do. But ultimately it’s your decision and if you’re willing to put in the time and effort, that’s amazing, and it’s your call as breastfeeding as nothing to do with your husband. I would tell him it’s what’s best for your baby and that’s what you will be doing. If there’s push back then tell him you’ll consider formula if he does the research and can find one that’s just as beneficial as breastmilk including the antibodies you produce (he’ll obviously end up empty handed and hopefully have a better understanding that you’re giving the ultimate gift to your baby and he should be grateful).

Formula doesn’t always make babies sleep longer. Many babies act the same way on formula. So don’t give up, cluster feeding will pass. I’m sure you’re doing such a good job so far 👏🏾

Breastfeeding is a journey and the support you receive affects it soooo much. If you want to nurse your baby and he doesn’t want to get on board, learn ways to manage to make it easier for the both of you. You deserve someone in your corner!

I got and sadly still get similar comments from my parents (baby is 3 months now). ‘Give that baby a Bottle. He’s starving. Bet he would prefer formula’. The latest is ‘give him baby rice as that will fill him up.’
I tell them all the stuff I’ve read I shouldn’t do this and that until certain times, but they say it worked fine on me and my brothers… 🙄
I did recently send my mam an article about the 12wk growth spurt and sleep regression and she did actually read that and found it fascinating. And said they didn’t have any of this research or reasoning in their day, they were just told it’s part of having a baby.

So I agree with the education comments above. Maybe send him some Instagram posts explaining the benefits. I find this lass great - https://www.instagram.com/olivia_lactation_consultant?igsh=czUyZnRla2psbjY=

I had exactly this n gave in we tried while i pumped in case it didnt help..two weeks later nothing changed n he realised how much of a dickhead hed been, defo dont listen to him I’d go as far as telling him to mind his business unless he’s planning on taking over every single feed if you do. The work just increases didnt help with cluster feeding nor sleep n we had washing sterlising n making bottles to contend with. A compromise if hes saying it out of want to help may be a pumped bottle or two occasionally so you can get some rest but otherwise hes being ridiculous

Moms who breastfeed are legendary! It's surely not for the weak. I got pushback from my partner and his mom for doing it too (and they turned against me thinking me selfish).

I learned real quick this is a family decision between you, your partner, and doctor. Unsolicited advice from everyone and their mom will continue if you guys don't set boundaries.

Unfortunately, me giving in, as a recovering people pleaser, I lost my ability to breastfeed from combo feeding breastmilk and formula due go others demands. Please learn from my mistake that other people don't know Your child best. Children are all develop and grow different! You as a the breastfeeding mom especially know baby's cues so well. Be empowered whether you are a formula or breastfeeding mom either way they are fed and late night feedings are never easy. But don't regret this precious newborn stage by not filtering advice by intuition or evidence based research.

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this from him. Tell him straight your child is not the same person as his niece or nephew and there is absolutely no guarantee that formula would help your child sleep as long as his niece or nephew did.
It's the child of you and him not him and his sister so she needs to mind her own business and he needs to meet minds with you. Would you have mum guilt if you had to stop because of him? How would that make you feel? Would you ve able to forgive him and how would that impact your relationship? Tell that to him. Then maybe he might understand its important and worth it.

I also didn't really discuss it with my partner because I knew it doesn't always work out and he expected it not to work because his mum had a low supply. But my supply was fine. I had to explain to him that it was super important to me and that it helped my PPD and feeling good about myself so he supported more to continue.

Sometimes he still tries to push formula

Do you want to leave with nanny and go back to work? Why is he pushing that? Does he just want everything done 100% his way and you don't have a say in anything? He has to realise parenting is a partnership and you both have to be OK with every decision.
Cluster feeding impacts your life not his so if you're OK with it and want to do it why is he not supporting you.

If its the wake ups he could sleep somewhere else. For some nights per week or part of nights

You don't need to know how much baby is getting, you can see baby's weight gain and if baby is doing enough wet and dirty nappies. After 12 weeks my baby doubled (goal for thst is 6 months) and his growth was always amazing so my partner never doubted my supply after even 2 weeks I think and trusted the 16 weeks of cluster feeding.

I know formula babies who do not sleep.

Well done you are doing amazing! It will get easier very soon then again at 6 weeks. 8 weeks. 12 weeks and massively easier at 16 weeks

Totally agree it gets so much easier - I used to cluster feed all evening on the sofa but now we are getting more of an evening back (17 weeks) a supportive partner is so important (I am super lucky) but you need to do what you feel is right - it won’t last forever and if it’s working for you stick at it! Also no reflection on sleep either! You are doing the most natural thing ever!

that’s genius!

that’s what I wanted to hear!! Thanks.

thank you 🙏🏻 I’ll look her up

I too am a recovering people pleaser!! Thanks for the advice. Much appreciated.

thanks for the support. Glad to hear it gets easier!!

Thanks everyone. Really helpful advice and given me a lot of confidence 🥰