My MIL is obsessed with my son

Just some insight, my mother in law lives with my husband and I. Normally we all get along, but since I came home from the hospital my mother in law has wanted nothing to do with my husband and I and has only wanted to hold the baby. She will offer to help us only if it means that she will hold the baby and get to spend time with him. Occasionally, I will need some help and will ask her to look after the baby, but lately I’ve been feeling like her behavior is a bit unhealthy. She will say passive things to me like, “oh, so only you get to decide who can hold the baby” or “ya know, if you never came back to get him, I would have never let him go”. She tells me that she’s joking, but it has been messing with me lately and I’m not liking it at all. Anyone else dealing with this? If so, how have you dealt with it?

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Sounds like she loves her grandson. Normal, no?

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Is it her first grand baby? I could see myself being all over my grand-babies 🥰🥰🥰
It’s hard to have an opinion on this without the full picture. But based on what you’re saying it doesn’t seem weird?—are you defensive towards her for other reasons and maybe looking too into it?

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I understand this as well. We just had our son and he’s the first grandchild but she’s been obsessive and a bit passive aggressive with how I want to handle or care for him. Stay strong and working in breathing exercises because that’s what I’ve done. I’ve yet to find a resolution to this similar situation as well.

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Wow um yeah it's my kid so YES I DO decide who holds him when. Nuts

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My MIL doesn’t live with me but she’s been staying with us on and off since we gave birth on 6/22 to help with our toddler and she’s been cleaning and cooking etc and she’s a godsend. Personally I think the more love the baby gets the better and I encourage the relationship of my children with their grandparents

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