Jealousy

Maybe they don’t know if you’ll be permanent in your husbands life and want to keep biology at biology.

the difference is i’m married, they aren’t, both his mother and father have been with many people in their life, i’ve only every been with my husband, we’ve been together for 5 years and now 2 kids in, and even if they wanted to keep it at biology that doesn’t change the fact that it’s my husbands kids, and i’m their mother so there for biologically speaking
i’ll always be apart of that family.
unlike people that aren’t married, having been together for nearly as long, won’t have any kids with each other, and have a history of being in many relationships…….
be fr.

But not everyone believes that marriage equals family, just because your religion tells you marriage is superior doesn’t mean that’s what everyone thinks. Plenty of marriages aren’t as strong as just a regular relationship. That being said they’re your kids you don’t have to let them call anyone grandma but if you’re out casting people they consider family you can’t get upset when they do the same to you.

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religion doesn’t tell me that marriage is superior, but even the law says marriage is superior. yes relationships can last sometimes longer than some people marriages but it’s way easier to get out of a relationship than it is to get out of a marriage.
i’m not related to them biologically, but i’m the reason why her son kids. meanwhile
my husband doesn’t even call her girlfriend mother, and she has done nothing to earn her title as a grandmother. maybe if they were married i’d have more trust that they wouldn’t hurt my children but simply breaking up.

and it’s completely normal to see someone unmarried as not family as to when they are married

but honestly i don’t care how they see me… zits the fact that they don’t want to be involved with my children because of how they view me that bothers me.

that’s why’s not right personally

All I’m saying is I can absolutely see their side. At the end of the day marriage is a piece of paper aside from now your money is involved and to essentially tell that mans family they aren’t family enough because of marriage I’m sure is insulting to them. And maybe the way they’re handling it isn’t the best but you putting yourself above them because you had his kids or are married isn’t very fair. He could divorce you and have kids with someone else and you’d no longer be a part of that family. That happens all the time.

I understand. It’s like some people who get divorced wouldn’t want the other parent gf/bf to be called mom or dad cause they don’t know if they will be around long. Your feeling are justifiable but so are theirs. Your kids may not get that attention but do you really want that toxic type of people around your kids? I am not religious and already think they are being to much and over thinking things and using your religion not talk to you. Personally I wouldn’t want that attitude near my kids. I wouldn’t let my kids call my my mother in law gf, if she had one idk I don’t ask lol , grandma either. Gf does not equal she will stay there forever now it’s different if they were together for 10 years . At that point I consider them common law marriage and will give them the title of grandma or whatever appropriate name they wish to be called. My mom wants to be called Leeta l

this is what my husband says about his own family and what my family tells me too, it’s just hard because i want my children to know both sides of the family, but being hated on for my religion and my boundaries just because i don’t want my child to call a woman my husband and i barely know and has only been in their grandmothers life for 3/4 years grandma
is crazy to me. i don’t want that toxic negativity in my life or my children’s life but idk it’s hard to take away the feels of wanting a bond for my children with her