How did yall do it?

Not going into much detail but i recently gave my fiance one last chance before i pack my shit and leave him he drinks so much all the time and he’s a very mean drunk and says and calls me some fucked up shit plus other stuff we’ve been together for 5 years and now have an almost 4month old i feel trapped and think that’s why i haven’t left yet. I completely depend on him when our son was born he caused a lot of damaged to my heart plus I have other health issues as well that has kept me out of work if i leave i have no where to go and no money to afford somewhere I haven’t been able to get accepted for wic or food stamps either and trying to find an at home job is hell….any mommas who have been in a similar situation how did you do it if i leave and get a job id be compromising my health and my whole check would just go to pay for daycare and gas (i worked in daycare for 8 yrs and then daycare photography for a yr) id go back and find somewhere that’s free or cheaper if you also work there but again with my health sick kids end up putting me in the hospital cause i have no immune system i really just don’t know what to do anymore i love my partner so much but im so tired of being treated like shit and downing my own self worth i don’t want to leave i want to believe he will change for our son but i can barely even get his help with him already idk

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Have you thought about a women’s shelter or transitional housing?

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honestly i haven’t I’m scared that if i do something like that it would give a reason to want to try and take our son from me i don’t think he ever would cause i literally do everything but with him being the provider and knowing i have nothing makes me worry if him or his mom would try to take custody of him

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that’s my issue in Georgia you have to put down everyone in the households income and they actually check it i use to have food stamps a few yrs ago and they literally took them away because i wasn’t making enough money at the time which made zero sense 🤦🏽‍♀️ and the county im in is hell to deal with but i just got my address changed to my mil’s house cause her county is a lot easier so praying ill finally get accepted for them

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.


I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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