Tips on setting healthy boundaries

There’s a really good book called boundaries by Henry cloud 🙏🏼

Thank you I’ll check it out 💜

I think you can get the audio version to have it read to you! 🙂

But it really makes you think about how you get yourself in those situations by the way you think

Just a note, setting boundaries only sounds like you’re a jerk to people who don’t want to respect the boundary and those are the people who you really need to set boundaries with. Overtime you get used to setting your boundaries and will feel more confident and less like you are a jerk.

tips on starting and sticking to it without feeling guilty?

I think you have to work through the guilt feeling, or at least that is what I am seeing with my husband. When you aren’t accustomed to setting a boundary with consequences, it can feel like you are being rude but you just have to power through. I had amazing parents and learned how while still young. I’ve refined and learned what true boundaries are over the years but my parents helped us with this as young kids through young adult. My husband never had that and was guilt tripped and manipulated into doing whatever to keep peace. Just remind yourself you aren’t telling someone how to act but what you are willing to be around. You are staying true to yourself. An ex I used with my husband was if a person was bullying you, you wouldn’t let that person come around anymore. You would tell you don’t like xyz behavior and if it continues you won’t hang out with them. Message me if you would like!