Day nap nightmare

My LO is 4 months and she sleeps well at night time, falls asleep being held at 8:30, transfers to NTM bed by 9pm. She occasionally waking up for a feed around 4am and then back to sleep until 8am …perfect!

Day naps however are a nightmare. She will not day nap unless being held or in the car. If I attempt to transfer her to NTM bed, she will immediately wake up and not return to sleep. I’ve also wanted to try a bit of self soothing to sleep but she will refuse to nap and just lays there crying.
Anyone with any tips on how I can get her to sleep during the day in her NTM so I can have a moment to myself?

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My LG is the same - sleeps well during the night but naps are a bit of a nightmare unless she's being held. So we mainly contact nap, which I do love, but I would like the option to get some other stuff done occasionally. We tried for 3/4 days of naps in her crib downstairs but if I managed to get her down it was for 20mins max and the 40+mins of crying/fighting to get her sleeping didn't seem worth it 🙈 We are going to try again but in her NTM upstairs or her cot when I build it to see if that works better. The rooms are darker upstairs (black out panels) and there's less going on that can distract her - I know it's going to take a few days at least for her to get used to it so I just need to persevere I guess. I'm hoping it goes a little smoother than our last attempt 🤞x

We have exactly the same issue. I’ve found darkening the room/being quiet (I presume they know the difference between day/night if sleeping well at night) and doing a 15 min wind down before a nap (if you can pick up on their cues) really helps. It doesn’t always work for us, but I’d say 1 nap a day I can pop him in his cot!!

My LB was the same until i started introducing soothers for him. Everynight for a week, i gave him the same muslin square to cuddle with his dummy when i would place him down to sleep. Then i started introducing it the same way during the day with his naps and now he knows when he gets his dummy and the muslin square to hug that its time to sleep and we don't have any issues because he associates them with sleep.

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

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I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

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