Antenatal depression

I don't know what to do because my partner and I haven't been in a good place for this whole pregnancy and I am really struggling to see a future. I'm constantly down and miserable and I just mask it when I'm around work. I've spent all day today just crying. Bad crying too. I absolutely love being pregnant but I am scared I have depression because I just can't seem to focus on the positives at all. Has anyone else felt anything like this or know anyone who has? I just don't know what to do 😞

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You can speak to your midwife and get referred to the mental health team- they’re normally pretty quick at seeing you x

I have developed anxiety during this pregnancy, so I feel you. Self refer yourself to NHS talking therapies, that's what I did, now I'm doing CBT!

I suffered with antenatal depression with my first pregnancy, the second the baby was born it just kinda left me! Stay strong, you'll get through it 💪 xx

Thank you guys. Isn't it a long wait to get seen on the NHS though? Xx

I only waited 2 weeks! I think it depends on your situation, they understand pregnancy is rather time sensitive.

they have a specialist anti/post natal teams so you tend to get seen a lot quicker

@Caroline I am so sorry you are going through feeling the way you are ❤️

I would 100% contact your Midwife or even your GP and ask for a referral to the Perinatal Mental Health Community Team. They are a fantastic resource and will pick you up quickly to support you through what you are going through.

Keep talking, you will get through this x

Ps. I work for MH community services and pregant women are a priority, you will not have to wait long

With my first I had terrible antenatal depression. I started out initially incredibly excited to be pregnant and to have my daughter, but as the weeks went on the depression kicked in. I didn’t love being pregnant, in fact I hated it. I felt constantly upset and panicked. I’d often think I’d made a terrible mistake and wish I could turn back time and not be pregnant. I felt trapped and like I didn’t want the baby but at the same time I was overly anxious something was wrong the whole way through too. I’d pretend to everyone around me I was happy but really I felt sadness, panic, anxiety and dread. I’d totally convinced myself I wouldn’t love the baby when it was born and would likely have post natal depression. I felt immense guilt and shame too. Then, at about 38 weeks it just… went. I don’t know why or how but the depression just suddenly vanished. After months upon months of crying daily and feeling horrendous, I suddenly felt fine, normal, happy. My daughter was born 3 weeks later

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol