What am I doing wrong?

I matched with so many mums and so many times I tried to initiate a coffee or meet up and I haven't succeeded since about March. Can anyone give me any suggestions or feedback on what I'm doing wrong? I just want a cool mum friend in the area who has somewhat similar values. 🫠
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Aww, it’s so hard! I’m literally the same… I’m in Bradford and because of the lack of human contact I’ve just turned agoraphobic and nervous to leave the house 🤦🏽‍♀️. Xxx

Only thought I have is could you be more specific for your location? Are you able to amend that? I tend to wave/click to match with people who appear to be close by xx

I think some people are just shy 🤣 i joined here thinking i’d be dead up for meeting other mums but the moment i think about meeting a stranger for a coffee i get all sweaty and feel sick🤣 its nothing you’re doing wrong, you just haven’t come across the right people yet! X

Your welcome to come and join a what's app group I have up and running, it's mainly Wakefield parents but your not faraway and I have lots of mums that would meet up and for for lunch and coffee ect x

I’ve been dealing with the same, my only friend that I had for over 4 years stopped talking to me so I have no one now. I’m in the USA if anyone wants a pan pal mom friend I will love it. It gets lonely especially because I’m a single mom and not having a friend like I did has put me down lately.

You’re definitely not doing anything wrong! People just stop replying, it could be just because it’s scary to meet new people. I’ve so far met one person and she suggested we meet again but had me travel all the way to a location just to never show up 😬
I’m based in bradford and Leeds if anybody wants a chat 😁

Welcome to message me if you would like to be added just need mobile number xx

I find it especially hard because I’m from Canada, so I don’t know how to initiate anything in Leeds area

I have had the same thing, spoken to loads of people on messages but it never really goes anywhere I think feel a bit awkward trying to message someone you don't know. I met up with one person then never heard from them again. It's so hard to make mum friends!

I'm south Leeds near Rothwell so I'd be really interested to join your group if that is ok?

Katrina what area of Leeds are you in? Also maybe update your profile to say what area you are in so people know if you are local to them or not?

yes of course send me your mobile number hun plz xx

I’d be happy to meet up with you, I’m in Leeds also. What part of Leeds are you from girl? X

Hi! Me too! Finding it so hard to meet people and I’ve been to baby classes to try socialise too, I can 100% understand the feeling you’re doing something wrong! Just want to meet a like minded mummy for play dates (& maybe baby free wine dates too! 😆)
I’m in north Leeds feel free to drop me a message if you want to meet!

@Kirsty Hi 👋🏻😊 May I be a groupie, please? I live in Bramley, but I am from Wakefield. I am currently in the process of moving back, and it would be lovely to have some mum friends 😊 x

Honestly same. I’ve been to so many baby groups but seems either people are just a bit shy or they not there to make friends 😂

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