Baby #2

I feel like I'm having a heart attack. All I've ever wanted was to be a mom, in 2022 I had a miscarriage, june 2023 I had my rainbow baby, who will be 14 months in 2 days, and I just found out I'm pregnant again. I love my daughter more than everything, but I've wanted to wait 2/3 years in-between just so it could be us 2 for a while. I've been lucky being able to be a stay at home mom, but my husband's job has recently changed his hours and I've been picking up cleaning jobs, but we aren't Financially or mentally ready to have another. I just can't wrap my head around this... any advice?

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You still have several months mama. Just take this time to soak it in. Just remember by bringing them a sibling you're doing them a favor, not an injustice. You are giving them the longest relationship and probably the strongest in their entire lives. Just wait until the day you see they're the best of friends. It'll be worth it 🥰

One, congratulations on your rainbow baby 14 months ago. It's tricky, I'm not sure where you live & how you feel about adoption, abortion etc. What I will say, is speak to your partner. We weren't 100% sure with our first as she was a surprise after giving up trying for a while & making changes in our life, a little like you guys. We sat down on multiple occasions and tried to figure out the best course of action, trying to work out if we could afford a baby both financially and time wise etc. It's rough on us mum's, because we get a sense of attachment to the embryo the second we see that second line. But whatever decision you make will be the right one.
Also, remember, your first bubba will be 2 years old if you are to keep this pregnancy. Good luck mumma 🙏🏻♥️

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