Wind me up

Just a little moan about unsolicited comments that wind me up!

When people say to me “oh baby needs to be able to sleep through anything and loud noises”

Sorry would you sleep through someone shouting in the same room, or doors slamming, or people trying to get in your face? Because I sure as hell wouldn’t 🤬

Or from a non parent “daytime naps should be in a light room”

Whenever I nap, before or during pregnancy (don’t tend to nap as much as I’d love to, my mind is constantly racing through the day) I would close my curtains and nap in the dark

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I was told by MIL that I shouldn't use electric breast pumps. Just coz she had a bad experience 30 years ago with one. I was told by the health visitor not to allow baby to contact nap due to the risk of over heating. In the first few weeks that's the only way she would nap.

Some people just want to tell you things without knowing the full story. Everyone is different. My little girl can sleep through construction work, neighbours arguing, nephews playing pretty much everything and all in light rooms. She can't sleep through SILs dog barking or the Olympic games when I've got them on tv 😂

Omg I feel you 🤣 especially about the noise. Naps are a nightmare for us, baby will wake for anything, except the dog barking or squeaking her toys - must have heard it a lot in the womb! 🫣
I’ve had a couple of family comment how she “needs to learn” 😅
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Pretty sure they’ve disproved the napping in a dark room thing. They used to think it would influence melatonin levels and confuse baby about daytime/nighttime, but they’ve discovered that doesn’t happen, and the darkness helps baby get good sleep.
Also regarding noise, an occupational therapist I watch on YouTube says that if they’re sleeping with lots of noise they’re actually “habituating”, which means they’re working really hard to stay asleep and the sleep is poor quality.

People like to make comments based on what they remember from generations ago and can’t accept that things have changed!

crazy ain’t it. Does she not realise there has been changes over the years to things like that?
Got to do what works best for you and your daughter 🫶🏽

mental ain’t it! I’ll do what works for us. What works for one baby, might not work for another! Everyone is different. Haha that’s brilliant that she’s used to the dog barking and dog toys 😂

My thing is WHY do they have to learn? Unless I am sooooo tired, I need it to be dark and quiet! And I’m 29. Actually not quiet, I think when my daughter goes in her own room, I’ll need to get another white noise machine. I actually woke up this morning because it died at 4am 😳 x

oooh I didn’t actually know about this! This is good to know and a good comment back too.

People don’t realise how much things change over the years do they 🤦🏽‍♀️

in our community

Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻

Crawling and walking

So my girl is 9 months now and shes great at sitting up and stays on her tummy for awhile but she seems to have no interest in trying to move or crawl or bum shuffle. Shes a big baby always has been but I'm disabled and I feel like it's my fault she's not hitting milestones I feel like there's something I'm not doing and it's making me a bad mum