8:30-9pm bedtime- anyone else?!

As it says. We have a set routine that we’ve always followed but at the minute my LO will not go to sleep until almost 9pm. He’s charging around the room still after dinner in the evenings and playing as normal. We turn the big lights off after tea and have no screen time (not even for us parents! But he doesn’t watch tv anyway full stop.) We tidy up all the toys half hour before taking him up to bed and read books, then it’s bath or if not read upstairs, bottle, then bed. He just doesn’t seem tired until that point and if we take him up earlier he just plays/ wriggles around with so much energy but then cries if we leave the room. (I am not willing to ‘cry it out’) this is full on tantruming and not just stirring and crying a bit to get comfy. I just feel at a loss and like I’m doing something wrong? It doesn’t seem to matter how long he naps. He had his usual 1.5h lunchtime today but yesterday only had half hour and was exactly the same if not worse. He wakes up at 7/7:30 latest and we’re always very busy and active in the day time as he’s a very energetic boy! I’m losing my whole evening at the moment and it’s really taking its toll on not only me but my partner too as we aren’t getting any time together.

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If he's waking at 7/7.30 and going to bed at 8.30-9 then he's having 10.5-11hrs overnight plus a 1.5hr nap which is right in the middle of average sleep needs. We go to bed at 8pm but he wakes at 6-6.30 and does 1.5-2hr nap but if he did any less nap it wouldn't make him sleep longer at night either. I'm forever in amazement at the kids still doing 11hr+ overnight and a 2hr nap, that's incredible but absolutely normal for them to need less. I read whilst they are still napping, 10-10.5hr overnight may be all they need. When they drop the nap they will go back to an earlier bedtime. It's so tiring but you aren't alone. If you want an earlier bed you will probably have to accept an earlier wake up and earlier nap to accommodate. Or cut the nap down to 1hr for 2 weeks and see if that helps x

Yes our bedtime is generally 8.30-9.30, tends to do 10 hours ish over night (with 2-3 wakes and feeds) then couple hours nap over lunch/early afternoon. Agree no point trying to get an earlier bedtime as he'll only go to bed when he's ready, lucky if I get half hour to myself but trying to just make the most of hanging out with him on these nice summer evenings

that’s good to know. I have tried getting him up earlier with the idea he’ll nap earlier and then go to bed earlier but it really doesn’t seem to make a difference. Thanks for the reply xx

It might be that he may just need 45 mins or an 1hr for his nap if you want your LB to go bed earlier . My LB goes bed 9pm & if he wakes up at 8am then he only needs 45 mins and he powers through to 9pm 🫨. He is normally up by 6am to 7.30am mind you but on the days he does sleeps till 8am then he doesn’t need that much for his nap x

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

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In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

Help meeee

!!All advice welcome!! My 5 month old (nearly 6mo) is just not sleeping . Not for naps and not at night . She can’t connect her cycles . We started sleep regression at 3 months but in like how is this nearly been going on for a further 3 months . Like surely not . She has 10 min naps in crib ( which take so much effort ) and maybe 20/30 min naps in my arms/pushchair . She wakes minimum every hour at night with guaranteed false start 20 mins in . I combo feed. I breastfeed her until almost asleep then place her in the next to me crib give her the pacifier and put my hand on her cheek/face for 20 seconds and she drifts off . It’s not really getting her to sleep that’s the issue it’s she just won’t stay asleep . She doesn’t even need to feed much at night usually 1-2 breastfeeds . The rest is comfort wakes needing her pacifier or my hand on her cheek . I’ve looked into sleep associations and independent sleep and I broke the feed to sleep association and rocking and do bedside comforting instead for most wakes which has now lead to my hand being a sleep association on her face . I’m just so exhausted my husband is working mon-fri 9-9 and it’s just me . I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since her birth . I can’t get anything done during the day . She is so clingy and cries if I leave room /put her down etc. I love her so much but we both need rest . If anyone has any tips or a routine that could help PLEASE tell me I’ll try anything 🥲❤️❤️

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