Help! 9 Month old waking up every 3 hours feed

Oh mama, sending hugs your way firstly! You're doing a great job!
At 9 months there's a lot happening developmentally so night wakings are common and with that often comes a need to feed, they're doing a lot of growing too!
Does your husband help with any of the night wakings or just complain about them?
Sounds to me like he needs to do a bit of reading on what is normal for a 9 month old and lower his expectations a bit 🤣
I'd tell him he either needs to provide ideas of things to help (like sharing the load of the wake ups) or he needs to be quiet and let you get on with it, complaining isn't helping anyone.
Your son is behaving perfectly normally for his age and you're doing a fantastic job mama ❤️

As above it's so so normal.
At this age they're learning to crawl and walk, some talking too, and they're teething there's a lot that disrupts sleeping

sleep regression, my lo is going through it at the minute, my husband supports me by doing all the night shift I do the days..but your husband needs to pull his finger out of his ar**

Are you breastfeeding, often times they want to have milk for comfort not because they are hungry. Trying other comforting strategies may help make him less dependent on feeding and will also allow your husband to participate more in the comforting.
My husband works a full time job, cooks and cleans up after dinner and does the night wakings on a daily basis.

this can be a myth with breastfeeding - breast milk is processed much quicker by baby's bodies than formula so sometimes breastfed babies are just hungry quicker than formula fed babies 😊
You are correct though that sometimes baby wants boob for comfort, but sometimes they are just hungry x

I wasn't suggesting that breastfeeding was the issue but breastfeeding can make it more difficult for the non nursing parent to help.
All babies are different and some might be hungry, but you won't know if they can go longer without feeding if the nursing parent is comforting as the baby can smell the milk and want it.
What worked for us was to have my husband comfort our breastfed baby when he woke up in the middle of the night. If he would not settle I would try and if that still didn't work then I would feed him for comfort.
Before he slept through the night without a feeding regularly it was harder to tell if he was hungry or just needed comfort

When things get tough, please remind your husband that there's a perfectly good couch he can sleep on.

Everyone's sleep quality is important. If you have the space, consider co-sleeping. Baby in cot in your room and other parent sleeps elsewhere. Take turns doing this. This was our strategy for a little while until baby was able to self settle and sleep longer .

You're doing the best you can for your baby, but always know you can speak to others for support.

I'm in the same boat with my girl. She's awake every couple of hours screaming in the night. It'll get better. Just hang in there.

My daughter is almost 9 months and learning to crawl/stand. She went from sleeping for 5-6 hours at one time to waking up every 2-3. I hear your pain. Hang in there. We got this.

breastfeeding didn’t make anything more difficult for me. Her husband can help in many other areas, he just sounds like a d!ck and has unrealistic expectations for a 9 month olds sleep.

agreed. I've breastfed the whole time and my husband does lots of other things when she wakes at night to help, least of which making sure I have a drink and a midnight snack 🤣

My LO has been like that recently. I know she is teaching but I just take a moment and start from scratch ruling things out.
Nappy, milk, calpol then rocking. Sometime she just needs a good cry to tire herself out if we have been chill during the day.
The weather can change her sleeping too.
Your doing great, it will pass.

Teething

I noticed my son had terrible sleep during the 9 month mark, his teeth were growing, he was starting to pull to stand, and they start having really bad separation anxiety at this age. I’d talk to your pediatrician because normally by that age you can drop night feeds all together & possibly explore sleep training if you’re interested in that