Missing my son

My son died last month July 9th and it's been so hard to go through every day life without him around he was only 4 years old

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I’m sorry for your loss 😢

thanks it's been rough for me hard to sleep at night knowing my Best friend is gone

I’m sorry for your loss. Praying for you sister 🙏🙏🙏

I understand very well your feelings 😢 it’s a heartbreaking loss💔 I hope times pass then you feel better knowing that he always sees you from the sky 🥹.
Sorry I’m just curious what happened? if you don’t mind sharing but you don’t need to i completely understand.

he was with my in-laws on a vacation in molino Fl and they rented an Airbnb that had a pond in the backyard and my sister in law went to the bathroom for like 3 mins and when she came out he was not in the house he opened the door while she was in the bathroom and went outside straight to the pond and drowned....

😢😢😢😤😤😡😡
I’d have been super angry with her for life. Can’t believe it I just had a conversation with my husband about not trusting anybody taking care of my baby maybe my family side if I actually need it but I still will be 👀
I just don’t feel comfortable and I don’t trust anyone

I’m sorry for your loss . There nothing I can say to make you feel better but you are in my thoughts and prayers . Take care of yourself

trust me I want to be so mad at her too but she didn't know he was going to do that

I'm so sorry for your loss of your angel 😇

🙏

that’s true. Unfortunately I’m so sorry 😣 do not trust anyone. I’m not gonna lie I don’t even trust my husband 😑

it's just something my sister in law and her husband have to deal with for the rest of their lives and it sucks it had to happen I was in Louisiana when it happened and left the day I found out about it can't even go back to Louisiana cause there's too many memories

I’m so sorry for your loss, he looks like an angel 🪽

I totally understand 🙏🏼

he was the most happiest and sweetest boy ever never met a stranger in his life loved everyone he met

That's so hard I guess life is about positive risk taking sometimes as it is good for their socialisation to be with others but heartbreaking when something like this happens he will have known he was so loved and you are a very strong person sending love x

What helps keep you strong do you have a faith? He obviously was an angel which was why God took him maybe life is so hard to understand sometimes

I’m so sorry for your son. This is absolutely heartbreaking. Sending love and light your way

Sorry for your loss 😔

I’m so sorry for the loss of your precious boy! I cannot imagine the pain 💔💔💔
We are here for you! Please reach out anytime !

My deepest condolences!💔

Wow, my heart is in pieces thinking about your pain, I'm so unbelievably sorry you have had to endure this nightmare.
you are so strong, and.. I can't even find the right words. I know I would not be able to have the grace and forgives you do, I hope that you can find some semblance of peace in this cruel world, and keep sharing his stories and the pictures of your little honey because yours and his stories matter and should live on through your love

I am so beyond sorry for your loss. I can’t even begin to fathom what you’re going through. My heart breaks for you. I’m praying for you 💕

I’m so sorry 😞

Sweet boy. Sending strength to you ❤️

I'm so sorry for your loss, Lindsey. I can't imagine your pain. This sort of loss cuts so deep into souls. Sending so much love and peaceful wishes to you and your beautiful angel.

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

My relationship is failing I feel so alone.. I need a girlfriend to talk to :(

I'm a sahm and I feel so stuck... anyone going through the same thing? I could really use someone to relate to and talk through this with. Feeling so vulnerable but if I don't I won't be able to pull myself out of this

Going back to work!

Already thinking about this! Told my boss I was pregnant this week at 10 weeks, he was so happy for me. He’s recently became a first time Dad and was showing me pictures of his baby. I told him my plans about going back after 6 months and he looked at me like I was mad, am I!? I absolutely love my job and cannot imagine giving it up, I manage a team and am petrified my position won’t be there if I had a year off. My husband gets 6 months full pay so the plan would be for him to have the last 6 months off and I also made it clear to my boss that I would like to go part time. That way we can hopefully parent together 4/7 days rather than just the weekend! I am such an overthinking! 🤣 but this is what I’m struggling with the most, I’ve worked full time since I was 17 (12 years ago) and the max time I’ve had off in one go is 2 weeks when I got married. I’m sooo excited to be a Mum and we decided now was the right time, which it 100% is! But I feel so on edge about not working! I’m sure once I’m on maternity leave I won’t even think about work! Has anyone else felt the same?

What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Go to dinner ideas

Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

Baby groups?

Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️