4hr wake window?

Is anyone on a 4hr window yet? I just extended my baby to 3.5hrs but they’re fighting sleep and naps so much now I think it might need to go to 4?

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I think we might need to as she’s not happy at her 2nd nap and bedtime 😬 we’ve only just moved to 2 naps as well!

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I wish! Every 2 hours at the moment and only contact naps

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it’s exhausting isn’t it 😂 he was having really short naps so I extended his wake window by 30 mins and thought I’d cracked it but now I’ll have to extend again! 🫠

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ah! you’re at the other side of it! I’d just say enjoy the peace and quiet and having an excuse to just sit down for a little while. Trying to keep mine entertained for 4hrs is exhausting!

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My little one goes anywhere from 1.5-4 hours without a nap😩

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exactly the same here! I really thought she would be napping in her cot by now but nope:(

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it’s exhausting I have to rock her to sleep too

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same here girl! Rocking, shhing, tv on loud and patting her bum! I’m sweating by the time she’s finally fell asleep on me🤣

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so so glad I’m not on my own as sometimes I feel like I am

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Mine was awake for 4 hours this morning, not by my choice lol but we were out and she decided to not sleep in the car

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FIVE hours am just now!!! Rocking, shushing, taking him out in the buggy, everything tried !
Finally had to feed to sleep

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We are, he just fell into it once we upped his meals to three times a day (bottle every 4 hours). He wakes from his second nap around 1.30pm then doesn't go back to sleep until bed time at 6pm

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wow! What time does he get up if he’s going to bed at 6pm? Mine goes to bed at 7:30 and still has us up at 5am 🫠

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feel free to message me girl, I am in the exact same boat!

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He gets up anytime between 6am-7am, has a bottle and down again until 9.30, which is when he wakes for his breakfast. I have no idea how it happened, he just decided that's how he'll sleep, not that I'm complaining! 😂

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