New mum and feel clueless😭

Hi all, my baby boy is 5 days old today his wake windows in the day are literally only to feed he spends all day sleeping and then at night he is so upset and frustrated takes ages to settle him. Is this normal or am I doing something wrong? Feel so lost!

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i feel you, the first few days were the same for us baby also only 5 days old, we started to try and get him up and keep him up for about an hour at a time a few times a day and this seems to settle him a little more at night

Definitely us at that age, my LO is now 3 weeks old but she was so unsettled at night and we found that she’s suffering from colic (emergency c section birth) so she was very mucusy and had difficulty winding. Not saying that’ll be the same for you but we just gave her infacol and colif and it seems to work (touch wood).
Definitely at week 2 start to train LO about day and night but she was like your little boy. Maybe he’d need an extra feed?

Could be day night confusion. As Demi said try and keep them up for a little during the day. Take them outside and get some natural sunlight on them (morning sun and afternoon sun are the best as they are less harsh) as soon as I brought my baby girl home from the hospital she was getting sunlight every day to help her with day and night. She has slept great during the nights since we brought her home and did this. Hope it helps, but just know mumma your not alone 💕

I’m currently going through this with my 4 day old, I also have a toddler but this all feels new to me again… you’re definitely not alone!!!

You’re not doing anything wrong at all! All babies are different, I’m 18 days postpartum and the first week for me was the hardest. Don’t forget your baby has no idea when it’s day or night but it’s hard not to get frustrated - especially when you’re not sleeping! Trust me when I say ride it through. We’re now having lots of tummy time and walks during the day which gives our little boy loads of stimulation and then we have a really good feed before bed and he’s usually out for up to 3 hours at a time now! It’s crazy how quick things can change. You’ve got this🫶🏻

Do not panic this is so developmentally normal. My little girl is exactly the same. I’m a children’s nurse so doing all the activities in the day and the calm time at night and she’s still a nightmare. He’ll get there ☺️

I’ve got no advice, but I’m right there with you. It’s rough x

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

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I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

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