Have you had success with sleep training a velcro baby? If so, what method did you use?

I used the book The Helping Babies Sleep Method by Dr Sarah Mitchell at 6 months. We previously coslept and contact napped

thanks, I'll check it out. How long did it take to work for you?

Controversial!!! When my son was six months old (after an appointment with the paediatrician that said he was all healthy and gave the blessing) we let him cry it out. He cried for 2.5 hours the first night and slept for 5.5 hours after. Then the second night he cried for roughly the same and slept the same. And the approx two weeks after he cried for about 45 minutes and slept six hours and then stopped crying and started self settling

I let my baby girl cry for 40 mins the other day & it really broke my heart 🥹.. I'm not against it, I'm just scared it'll have a bad effect on her attachment. Has anything changed attachment wise with you?

Oh believe me I think I sobbed louder than he did the first two nights. But he is 13 years old now and it did not affect our relationship. He was still very much a mummies boy and still continued to breastfeed for another 8 months after that. He eventually ended up consistently sleeping from 8-8 every night and the transition from the cot to toddler bed was a lot easier. I’m not saying that every situation or baby is the same as mine but I know 100% it did not effect my son or our relationship

I personally believe all babies are Velcro, it just means they feel safest with you which is normal and means you’re doing a great job! I’ve sleep trained 3 babies and what I do is let them cry for 10 min (set a timer), then come soothe them for a minute or so, put them down and repeat. It helps them learn that you’ll come back(you haven’t abandoned them), but that you also aren’t taking them out the crib LOL. Within that hour of back and forth they eventually give up and just go to sleep. Ps. Letting them cry for hours is insane!

I meant results sorry 😅

Aw that's good to know that it didn't affect anything 🥹🥰.. You hear about all these research that shows it affects attachment & it makes you anxious 😬😫

do you just allow 10 mins of crying or do you do longer periods? & do you ever go over an hour?

I used the Cara babies method. My LO in 2 days was sleeping great. What are you doing?

I'm doing a variation of the Ferber Method 😩.. I'll look into that method, thank you 😊✨

I think it’s the same thing… how are you feeding baby? Breastfeeding or bottle? I had to stop breastfeeding before bedtime and give a bottle instead because of sleep association.

I have a PDF if you want to read it.

I’m a SAHM with a super attached baby. He used to sleep independently until 8 months old when he got sick and we started co sleeping. We co-slept for 1 month and we successfully sleep trained. We did a modified Ferber method. It took two different tries. First time was terrible. Second time took about 4 days. I’d only wait a few minutes of him crying and would try to soothe him while he’s still in his crib (but pats, rubbing back, shushing) or worse case pick up and rock back to sleep. I wouldn’t leave the room until he was asleep. DM me if you want and I’ll tell you everything that works for me

she's mostly bottle (formula).. I breastfed for comfort but I stopped nearly 2 weeks ago.

Yes please 😊

yeah, I feed her & put her in her crib asleep, which gives me a few hours before she wakes.. The first two nights I put her in awake n that proved difficult too😬😫.. I don't know whether it's a good idea putting her in her crib awake or asleep lol 😩

Tbh I think every baby might be different with that. Supposedly with Ferber method they should be put down while awake. But I had such a hard time that way. My baby seemed to cry and want me more. So I followed my instincts and let him fall asleep in my arms. After a few hours when he would wake I would go back to comfort him and wait in his room for him to fall asleep again. I never left him awake crying. It was honestly a learning curve and I took different things from different methods and mixed some things up. If you find after a few days it’s not working switch it up. Remember every baby is different and follow your gut with what feels right. And even though it’s hard don’t give up I promise you will eventually get there. It was so rough for us and I literally cried from how stressed I was and he now sleeps so well on his own.

Saw good results after a couple of days and was falling asleep alone and only waking once for a feed within 2 weeks

I've unfortunately given up. She would cry as soon as I put her down.. If I made sure she was asleep before putting her down she would wake up crying as soon as she realises she's not in my arms.
On top of that my partner doesnt like hearing her crying n grumbles/complains n I cba with his attitude so I've stopped. She's currently in bed with me.
Dunno what to do 😭

that's amazing. You must be so pleased. Wished I had some of that luck 😂

he cried for 2.5 hours on his own?

Maybe try again in a few weeks when you feel ready. It’s better to also begin maybe closer to a weekend like a Thursday (if you don’t work the weekend) and you both can rotate getting up to go to the baby so 1 one of you isn’t completely exhausted.

yeah, maybe I'll revisit it soon. It's just so exhausting. He won't do it as he doesn't like the cries, so it's just on me unfortunately 😫

Yes I was surprised with how well it went. Naps were a lot harder to crack as it took a while to get the wake windows right which was crucial.