Hi just a worried mother here! 😭

So my daughter is 2 years and 7 months, she has always been very good with words from 10 months she would say “I love you” she could count up to 10 also, however how communication has never been good and she isn’t very social, all of a sudden about a month ago she would still say a few words but the rest she’s humming a lot!! This is making me soo worried is like she just forgot how to say things over night. She will be 3 years old In January.

She also has a brother (9 month old) she dislikes being near him, she barely acknowledges him. Is so sad because he actually likes to play with her.

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Has she had her 2 year development review. If not call your health visitor and book a review

she already had her 2 year old check with the health Vistor, she didn’t have much concerns, but I will definitely connect her again

Does she make eye contact with you or your partner? Does she respond to her own name? I guess if you’re concerned about her development you should speak to your local health visitor soon!

yeah does make eye connect, she responds to her name but not all the time sometimes she just ignores me

I think all these could just be normal for her age but only professional can tell us if there is any concerning sign. So definitely speak to your health visitor or GP soon to get another opinion!

will do Thankyou!

Does she go to nursery? Or do you take her to any children centres? As you said she's not very social maybe she needs to interact with more children her age.
I do the health reviews and sometimes children just need to interact with other children as it's good for their development.
If needed an SE ASQ can be done which is more on the social and emotional development of a child.

she has never been to nursery but she will be starting next week, I use to take her to play centres before but we haven’t been going that often since I had my son..

but the health Vistor did advise me that I take her nursery, but instead of her using words now she started humming which is strange

could definitely be a regression bc of the baby. it’s very normal for the older siblings to revert back to more baby-like ways. sometimes it’s for attention. sometimes it’s out of defiance. sometimes it’s just a big life change and they need time getting use to it.
it’s probably hard on you for her to not like the baby. and i empathize with that. i think as time goes on and as he gets more mature and is able to play more on her level she will like him more. my daughter and son are only 13m apart. and my daughter didn’t want to play with her little brother til he was closer to 15m. he just was not playing how she played. so they would do a lot of parallel play. now that they’re almost 2 and 3 they now interact A LOT more while playing and will make up little games without me even being involved. but it took time to get to this point.
as big of a change as it is for you to have a baby, it’s a change for her bc she isn’t the baby anymore.
if possible, try to make time for just you two

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

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