First night away 🥹

Girls, I done it! I had my first night away from my baby last night.. I went and stayed in London overnight as me and my friend went and saw Niall Horan at the o2. I’ll admit, I cried when I left him, I felt awfully! But leaving him made me realise that I haven’t done anything proper for myself since before he was born. I have literally lost who I was as a person and I got so emotional at different points yesterday because I started feeling a bit like my old self (24 week pregnant version) and it felt so good.
Made me realise that after this second baby, I really need to put myself first sometimes and do things for me. I’ve only got about 9 more nights away to catch up with the amount my husband has left us 😂

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Aw I’m so happy for you!! ❤️

You’re so right! It’s so easy to lose yourself in motherhood but it’s not healthy at all. We need time for ourselves and to prioritise us sometimes 🤍

So proud of you!! That’s absolutely amazing! 🥰
I’m 3years (+9m of pregnancy) into motherhood and I’ve not had a night away. Went shopping the other day & spent over £300 on clothes for the kids and nothing for myself. Made me realise I need to prioritise myself.
Thank you for reminding me that we matter too ❤️

That’s amazing!🥰
I’ve realised I need to put me first sometimes. I’ve had a kidney infection, cold and now a sinus infection 😫 I think my body is trying to tell me something

Aww well done to you. You deserve and definitely got to think of yourself too, you matter also. Health is so important and if you’re not in that state of mind, you definitely lose yourself. Once in a while, do treat yourself, even if it’s a little bit. 💕🙂

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