Sleep

Any tips on how to get my month old baby to sleep in her next to me?
We have been told she has a milk allergy and struggle to have bowel movement, so we will start the gripe water, however she’ll not sleep anywhere other than on my chest, if she we go out in the car she’ll sleep in your car seat. But we sure ain’t letting her sleep in her car seat for the night as that’s very dangerous. I don’t want to co-sleep cause that scares me. I’m literally running on about 3/4 hours sleep a night and that cause I ended up bringing him downstairs and letting her sleep on my chest in the end, she doesn’t settle with her dad either, it’s just me.

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She is on this milk too, how long did it take till she seen a difference? I haven’t tried to put the mose basket in the next to me yet. We tried settling her in the Mose basket and then bringing that upstairs, but after her bottle in the night she wouldn’t go down in it 😩

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Practice the first nap of the day in the next to me, when they’re awake but getting tired. They have residual melatonin from the night before so this is the easiest time to practice self settling and non contact naps 💪🏼

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We are 3 weeks in & l just let him sleep on my chest & l sit upin bed all night 😭. Soon as l try put him down he lasts about 5mins then his up crying. Thats the same with daytime nap as well. Im hoping soon he accepts because my arms, back and hands are sore from holding him 24/7

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Mine also sleeps on me, I just tuck his blanket tightly on my sides so that my hands are atleast free and his head is positioned right. Leaving him in his cot gives me hectic anxiety

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l have the same swaddle but my little one doesnt seem to like it. I will try introduce it in the day time to see how we get on

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