What to do😪

I feel so stuck I don’t know what to do. I’m married and my relationship has had its ups and downs like any. He’s a changed man and has come a long way. I’m not sure if I’m being selfish or if how I feel is okay. I just feel like a married single mom. I know I don’t work but I’ve said that I would u just feel so alone in everything. He helps out but mostly when asked. We haven’t been on a date in a year. The romance and affection has stopped. I don’t know what to do, we have four kids together and I really want to keep a two parent household but ughh I feel so alone.

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I take it he's never home because he's making the money?
What will you gain if you leave him?

You can feel however you want, but if you're lonely, go out and make friends. Put yourself out there.
Are your kids your whole life? Have you lost yourself?
Make money from home for yourself by working for yourself. Start an online business. What skills do you have or passions you enjoy?
Have you put effort into rekindling the romance and affection, or are you expecting him to take the initiative? Have you told him you'd like to work on your relationship?

yes my kids are my whole life. I’ve tried making friends and nothing lasts. I have lost myself but I’m on the path of finding me again. Should I just focus on that for now?
Yes I’ve made countless efforts to rekindle what we’ve once had.
I enjoy art, writing, crafts, hands on stuff. I also homeschool our children and I really enjoy that.

Honestly start with a date night first if possible have your oldest again if possible to watch siblings or ask a neighbor or friend or relative if they r free an if hubby gets a day off that works do a dinner/movie picnic anything I understand where y r coming from as well if that don't work take kids with u an just enjoy ur time with hubby an kids
I have a heard time making friends even just to meet that don't go anywhere to if u have Facebook look into mom groups near u an join I found a few that either do mom's night or a few will do a play date with other moms an kids to play an we just eat, wine, chat or create your own Facebook group to get started in your area another mom just started a kid movie night in group I'm in
Focus on yourself take a bath/shower if possible do ur hair/makeup nails Pedi different put something that u haven't for awhile as well to make him so he will say ok date night coming up that sometimes work for me

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I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

My friend is over from another country but I don't feel like leaving the house

One of my old friend's is visiting where I currently live and we agreed to meet up today but I feel so tired and exhausted from everything that's been going on with me. I feel if I meet her I'm going to end up having another breakdown from the exhaustion which I have been having often. I'm just thinking about how I need to rest to be able to deal with my toddler and go back to work on Monday without feeling like I need another weekend. I'm torn on what to do so I need you guys to help me decide

Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Feeling like I’m failing

Hey guys, I need some advice or some positivity here!
My daughter is 5 months next week and she has her first tooth coming through! Yay! But for the past month or so she has become so wary of family whenever I go to visit! She screams, won’t settle, cries the whole time. I went for my birthday to celebrate and I had to leave because she just would cry looking at anyone :( it’s so hard because she used to be so good with anyone!

Will this change or is this just the way she is? I try to see them as often as I can, and my MIL is looking after her in two weeks overnight and part of a day and I’m petrified of what’s going to happen, that she’s going to scream. My poor MiL 😭. I’m a very calm and collected person and I don’t get worked up when she does react this way… I just feel so sad and down that I can’t be with family and that my poor girl is scared. I give her so many cuddles, milk, toys, going to a quiet room, but she just doesn’t settle 😭

Please someone say this is a phase and there is light at the end of the tunnel ?!!

With the weather getting nicer I just feel we are going to miss out on so many lovely family memories

People telling you your baby is hungry..

I know people don’t always mean it in a bad way and are trying to relate, but when people say my baby is hungry when chewing his hands. I feed him regularly. He eats pretty much every 2 hours. He isn’t hungry, he just loves chewing and exploring his hands. Or they say something about teething, which it is also not, as he isn’t unsettled with it. I have looked into it myself and can be common and neither of those things! He has done it most of the day since 2 months old.