Push present

I don’t expect my man to get me anything for pushing out our child. I wanted the baby too so I don’t see why I should get a present for it when the baby is the present. But 1500 is a lot of money to give as a present so if you’re unhappy with that then what would make you happy? Seems ungrateful 🤷‍♀️

i didn’t get anything, so yeah that seems ungrateful

A car. Only because I was driving a low loud sports car and he didn’t want me driving his babies in that and I refused to get rid of it 😂

That’s a good amount of money. I think yeah it’s ungrateful.

I personally think push presents are unnecessary and dumb so yes you are ungrateful.

But why are they unnecessary

You pushed out a whole human. I risked my life to have my baby i developed preeclampsia so why is a present unnecessary

I only say that because i truly wanted something more heartfelt and meaningful

A baby you wanted

Maybe your man didn’t know that and thought money was enough? Maybe mention you wanted something meaningful and give him the money back

You knew the risks when you got pregnant, it’s not like it was a surprise. A push present is usually something like jewellery, clothing, gift card. It’s an American thing that gained popularity a few years ago and now social media influencers post them getting presents such as thousands of pounds, expensive cars, expensive bags, houses. It’s completely taken the whole point of a push present out of context.

I didn’t get anything. I joked about it but me and my boyfriend started out dead broke. If he gifted me $1,500 I’d be grateful as hell.

I see why you posted anon😂

period sister

lol it’s not a bad thing to revive a gift.. i can see how I’m coming off as ungrateful I’ll take that but let’s not say the whole idea isn’t nice

It wasn’t originally but now it is as it’s been changed. The origin of a push present was to mark the occasion of the mother giving birth, the gift that would be expected was jewellery. Now it’s cars and expensive bags and crazy amounts of money. It’s not so much about celebrating the birth anymore it’s just a way of getting expensive gifts. So yea I think it is now a good thing turned bad by influencers making expensive gifts the new normal. I never said it wasn’t nice I said it had been taken way out of context. It should be a heartfelt meaningful present like you said, that isn’t a car, expensive bag, thousand pounds. It’s jewellery or a gift card or a spa trip. Maybe lower your expectations and remember the actual origin behind a push present. It symbolises fertilty,strength and preciousness of new life.

Look lots of women on here didn’t get anything for push present so if I got $1500 I would still be hella grateful. Coz that’s still something

Honestly, this looks like rage bait and I ain't playing. Sorry your man didn't pay you enough for having a kid. 😂😂

Push present 😂😂😂😂😂😂

My “push present” was my healthy babies! And a mcds on the way home 😂

I like the idea of push presents and wouldn’t go as far as saying they’re dumb and unnecessary because then every gifting occasion is dumb and unnecessary…. However I do think the way people expect crazy things is kinda over the top. I mean what do you want??

I personally didn’t get a specific gift but I get what I want when I want and we both love and take care of our daughter who is the best gift. I’m currently doing my driving lessons and en route to getting my drivers license and will get a car as a gift when I pass, I guess you can call that a “delayed” push present

This is wild 🤣

I got a subway and a redbull cause it’s all I craved while pregnant and I was so happy about it so with 1500 instead of getting you something he didn’t know if you’d want or like he’s given you the choice of spending it on what you want

I thought push presents were a joke… they are an actual thing? 😳

Never even heard of this but i guess i dont have social media so despite being 23 i probably have a much older mindset when it comes to trends and things 😂

No I’ve never gotten a push present for carrying/delivering OUR child. This is my third pregnancy lol yes, I personally think you’re being ungrateful. I’d be happy to get a keychain he saw at the gas station that made him think of me 🤷‍♀️

I hate the whole “push present” thing - the gift you get after enduring childbirth is A BABY! I was on cloud nine when my son was born, he was genuinely the best present I’ve ever received. It’s so sad that commercialism and social media have made it seem like that’s not enough.

I never got anything and personally my baby was more than enough of a gift 😬🫣

I do find the whole push present concept dumb BUT I did want a special little keepsake so he bought me a pendant made with my breastmilk. I also did get a car upgrade more suitable for baby only because it was necessary. Essentially, the money spent is OUR money so the idea of spending a ridiculous amount on something just for the sake of it makes zero sense.

Lmao I’m not saying my baby wasn’t a gift…. She is.. literally the best thing in the world. You can get a gift of appreciation from your man for all you endured throughout pregnancy and childbirth..

I’m in Canada I didn’t get a push present but I haven’t heard anyone I know in person really mention it either, must just be an American thing. But I do understand wanting something more heart felt, it’s like getting gift cards instead of a proper gift like a cop out, either way you were really lucky to get anything at all

Bro that’s so much money go buy yourself something. People shouldn’t expect to get a present for pushing out a child. Your gift is your child. And if you get something else then awesome. And getting money is great because then you can literally go get whatever the heck you want

What a ridiculous thing to expect 😅 a push present?! What on earth is the world coming to lol. All I expected after I'd delivered our baby was a nice medium rare steak dinner at home, which i got!

I wouldn't want anything. We both come from families that thinks bringing up kids is a mom's thing, but he understands and tries to learn how to support me. I wouldn't expect a greater gift.

Incog I totally understand. Tbh you shouldn’t have posted here you know how people are on this app. So weird and take thing over the top like damn of course the baby is the gift😂

It’s like saying what’s the point of getting a wedding gift, the wedding is the gift. What’s the point of getting an anniversary gift, the marriage is the gift.

However I think it’s just the way you worded it, it sounded a bit ungrateful and extra xx

Push presents are nice ideas. For being ungrateful at all, that's where you're being ridiculous.
Everyone knows that at the end of pushing there's a baby. Personally, I don't like gifts, small gestures that show thought, yes. So yes you're going to see the frustration

On a lot of mother's who only see this as you being ungrateful he didn't pay you enough for your baby. You're also posting this in a "mom's in their twenties" group. Everyone here is obviously of different backgrounds and financial standings.
Some of the people here couldn't afford the extra so they're going to be extra explosive you got more than $1000 and you're asking them "am I ungrateful for not being happy" which is a redundant question because you're expressing you're ungrateful then asking for confirmation if that's ridiculous. I've shown this and all comments to my husband and we've had a good laugh. Although,he was curious if he pays you for anything else? 😂😂 Cuz it's wild to me. Actually no it's not that ridiculous that you're ungrateful he should have gotten you something smaller, something more sentimental, something that actually meant something, because you can throw money at anything and anyone.

Mines told me I can have a maccies and some flowers 😂 which honestly sounds great to me

Nope, I got promised a kfc during labor for after but he fell asleep instead 🤣🤣 before you feel bad for me he had been awake/very little sleep for 3 nights and by my 'bedside' for 4 days x

Okay, reading your comments saying you wanted something more heartfelt. I’m sure it’s your first and he doesn’t know any better. Keep in mind, us women we think about things differently. So kindly ask him if it’s okay to take the money he gave you and buy you a present instead. I told my husband specifically what I wanted and he got it😌