Self soothing?

Is it possible for baby to self soothe without dummy and without letting them cry or not being responsive? I want my baby to fall asleep by himself but I’m not ready to let him cry to sleep or not respond when he’s crying I find that so sad

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We have been working on this the last couple of weeks, and over time she has learnt to settle without her dummy. She often chats herself to sleep now which is so cute.
If she is grumbling or moaning I usually leave her a minute or 2, then go back in and reassure/resettle but if she starts crying I will go in a pick her up until she calms and then try again. Often the 2nd time of putting her down she'll then settle herself really quickly x

I mean if your baby is used to something to help them fall asleep and you take that away, I highly suspect some upset will happen. The situation is new and they aren’t quite sure what to do without said thing that has been taken away (ie dummy, rocking, feeding to sleep) etc. Depending how old your baby is will also depend how much they may protest the change. You can for sure teach him to fall asleep by himself but it won’t be an instant acceptance from him unless you take things soooo slowly. Ie, place down and if he cries pick him up. And repeat. But that can actually cause more upset depending on the age as well. Crying is a normal response to change, and you can support him through that. You don’t have to close the door and walk away.

He stoped having the dummy a month ago so he’s not used the dummy anymore, just thought I’d put that in the caption as some might suggest to give the dummy, should’ve probably explained better

Yeah that’s true with the crying being a normal response! Is it not gonna upset baby more if I pick up when crying then put straight down when stop crying he’ll cry even more?

In all honesty, yep, more than likely depending on the age. How old? Pick up put down usually is best for babies under 3 months. Some space is usually what older kiddos need.

He’s 4 months now, there’s no rush to sleep train tbh but I know it might get more difficult as he gets older

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

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