MIL keeps calling

I wrote a fb status to stop this and then I ignored everyone after that. Just ignore people they’ll get the message x

Why aren’t you just honest with her? “mil we don’t plan on telling anyone when i go into labor bc we want our privacy” and leave it at that. Or just stop answering??

She's your MIL. Your husband should be the one dealing with her and telling her that you're not telling anyone.

Do not answer your phone. As simple as that. Just ignore the calls and messages.

I would say that you need to set boundaries with her now before the baby comes as it will be harder to do when the lo is here.
My mother wanted to be at my birth so was told very early on that this would not happen.
If you don't set boundaries now then you will end up getting very overwhelmed and frustrated when the baby arrives and with the lack of sleep, this would be a very bad time to deal with her

Yeah I’d just tell her that you or your husband will be in touch when there’s any news she needs to know about!! Hopefully she’d get the message to back off x

We have a family group chat his side with lots of members, I think when we went quiet they assumed something was wrong. He’s terrible with his phone I’m usually the replier but I was tired and exhausted after two days in labour so barely replied to my own mum. Everyone knew my expected c section date but as baby turned I had a natural labour instead so went past the actual date. It was annoying to see the messages but in the end I just sent everyone a message we will contact you when we have more progress, no one is more impatient than me! They soon got the hint.

I'm 39+6 and my MIL has been calling my husband every day for the past week to ask if the baby has arrived. Last night we both said when she's here, we'll let you know.

She asked my husband to call her when we go to the hospital to let her know (we're not having anyone at the hospital or once we're home for at least a week). He's told me that he won't be as he knows she will constantly call or text after that which neither of us need!

@Kimberley my husband went over when I was 34 weeks to set all those boundaries but now it seems she doesn't care...

@Sophie it's exactly the situation I'm in...

It's so frustrating!
I woke up this morning to a WhatsApp message asking (due date) so read it and haven't replied. She sent my husband the same message and he just replied saying nope, still pregnant!

I've told my husband that with our next pregnancy I'm not telling anyone our due date.

As others have said, let the unit know you don't want any visitors so they can refuse her entry if she finds out you're in hospital. Also, confidentiality laws means if she tries to call to find out if you're in labour or any info, they can't legally confirm you're there let alone give out any info.

We're lucky in that we live away from any family so that can't just rock up and they won't know anything unless we tell them.

If you set boundaries, then say she is overstepping, and you will be blocking her for a while. Then she can only communicate with your husband. Breaking boundaries has consequences. Did you set those up with her?

@Jenna my husband had a sit down with her when i was 34 weeks but i guess she is disregarding everything he told her...

I echo what so many are saying, tell the hospital No Visitors or give them a list, they will ask for photo IDs before being admitted. We did this with both of our kids births. We told our parents afterwards. But my in laws and parents were respectful, had they not been, I would have just lied and changed the subject...talk about food lol


If they still are being disrespectful and annoying, tell them the doctor changed your expected date to something later. Tell them you are set to be induced on like Friday but actually you are going in before on Tuesday