Travel cot misuse - I am a terrible mum !!

So my LO has been sleeping in a travel cot for a bout 2 - 3 weeks as he is too big for the next to me cot. The travel cot is brand new and I stupidly never thought of buying an additional mattress for it. Today someone was shocked to hear that my baby was sleeping in a travel cot and it hit me… I feel so awful for not even thinking this is not good for his physical development.. I am now looking online to buy a proper cot and mattress but I can’t stop crying, this is a terrible thing I have done and I wonder if anyone has had a similar experience 😢😢😢

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Was he sleeping?

An extra mattress in a travel isn’t a ‘must’ or the world will end situation.
The way I see it is that your baby would tell you he is uncomfortable by disturbed sleep or fidgeting etc.
My daughter sleeps at my parents in a travel cot and we said we’d see how she went without an extra mattress, she sleeps for 10/11 hours overnight there without a problem so she’s obviously not uncomfortable 🤷‍♀️
Don’t let other people cloud your decisions x

Thanks - His sleep has been disrupted but I have been blaming teething and sleep regression 😫 he is 4 months old

Most travel cots shouldn't be used with additional mattresses. They're a hazard. My youngest never had a 'proper cot' we always just used a travel cot and the thin mattress till she went in a bed at age 2

You’re actually using it correctly right now. Adding a mattress that didn’t come with it isn’t safe.

Honestly you are not a terrible mum at all. I don’t know if your travel cot it suitable for permanent sleeping but as other have said, they are safer without an extra mattress. If you went on holiday for two or three weeks, that exactly where you baby would sleep, whoever made you feel bad, should keep their comments to themselves x

Thanks all for your comments - it’s more like should I be putting him in that for every day sleeping which isn’t recommended apparently x

Why wouldn’t it be recommended, is it not a safe sleep space? As long as it’s a safe sleep space and your child fits within the safe limits of being able to use it (weight, height and sometimes milestones like rolling or pulling up, depending on the product), you’re not doing anything wrong using it for sleep. Just double check the manual.

It’s fine! What would you do if you went on a 2 week holiday! Don’t worry. People love making others feel bad. Some people if poor wealth don’t have luxury of next to me etc and just make do xxx

My little boy sleeps in a travel cot everytime he goes to stay at his grandmothers which is once a week. I don’t see the issue, don’t worry xx

Mine slept in a travel cot from 6m to 11m 🤷‍♀️

An extra mattress isn’t a necessity you have not done him any harm. I am a health visitor and would have no issue with this. We are going away this week and my baby will be in one all week with no extra mattress. Don’t beat yourself up and don’t panic about buying a new cot

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

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I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

Help meeee

!!All advice welcome!! My 5 month old (nearly 6mo) is just not sleeping . Not for naps and not at night . She can’t connect her cycles . We started sleep regression at 3 months but in like how is this nearly been going on for a further 3 months . Like surely not . She has 10 min naps in crib ( which take so much effort ) and maybe 20/30 min naps in my arms/pushchair . She wakes minimum every hour at night with guaranteed false start 20 mins in . I combo feed. I breastfeed her until almost asleep then place her in the next to me crib give her the pacifier and put my hand on her cheek/face for 20 seconds and she drifts off . It’s not really getting her to sleep that’s the issue it’s she just won’t stay asleep . She doesn’t even need to feed much at night usually 1-2 breastfeeds . The rest is comfort wakes needing her pacifier or my hand on her cheek . I’ve looked into sleep associations and independent sleep and I broke the feed to sleep association and rocking and do bedside comforting instead for most wakes which has now lead to my hand being a sleep association on her face . I’m just so exhausted my husband is working mon-fri 9-9 and it’s just me . I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since her birth . I can’t get anything done during the day . She is so clingy and cries if I leave room /put her down etc. I love her so much but we both need rest . If anyone has any tips or a routine that could help PLEASE tell me I’ll try anything 🥲❤️❤️

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