Sensory input or would you say too much?
I do bedtimes with my son every night, he doesn't settle very well with my husband unless I'm physically out of the house.
I used to rock him to sleep but recently have started to settle him in his cot - maybe for a couple of months now. He can be quite fidgety but patting him firmly on his back seems to regulate him and make him lay still and relax. He has his pyjamas and a thick sleeping bag on, so I'm not patting him directly onto skin.
My husband says I am "hitting" him too hard - the living room is directly beneath my little boys room and the walls / floor in our house are thin so you can hear a lot through the house. Husband says it sounds awful and he thinks I need to stop.
In my eyes it is sensory input / regulation which makes my son settle down - but to my partner he says it sounds like I'm hitting him. My son hasn't ever shown signs of being upset.
I now feel like a horrible person and have questioned what I'm doing.
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In my house we’re the same but opposite 🤣 my partner does every single bedtime because my son will not go to sleep for me or settle for me🤷🏽♀️ his bedroom is directly above the living room and I often hear my son being patted on his bum/back to get to sleep but my son has never moaned or tried shoving his dads hand away indicating it hurting him so I’d say just carry on what your doing and as long as you are aware of the pressure and firmness you’re using then your fine, your doing the bedtime so it’s what works for you and your son x
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