Potty training

My daughter is happy to sit in knickers all day, she’ll go and sit on the potty but not for a long period of time. She’ll wipe herself as though she’s been to the toilet and will put the tissue in the toilet and flush then wash her hands etc but won’t actually release her wee. She knows when she needs to have one and she’ll get hysterical and cry for a nappy. Once the nappy is on, she’ll wee. Is anybody else experiencing this with their child? On a plus side, she has completely given up the dummy on her own. Just completely stopped using it or asking for it. So I’m winning there but potty training is so so hard 😭

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They can only hold their wee for a very short period of time, like under 1 minute, refuse the nappy, she'll start to wee and you whisk her onto the toilet/ potty asap and then praise praise praise x

Yeah if you really want her trained and can commit to it then refuse the nappy. There will be accidents unfortunately but try and read her cues and take her to the potty/ toilet and just have her sit there even if you have to distract her on there. I did use my phone in the beginning so she would stay sitting. For my daughter it was getting her to do that first wee that was difficult as she too refused to go but once she had no choice, we praised her so heavily like over the top clapping and cheering etc

That’s what I think will happen, once she’s been, she’ll be fine but it’s getting her to go which is so difficult. X

my daughter held her wee for hours and hours and then had to release it eventually which was on the potty with my phone and she was so scared BUT once that is over and they realise it's all fine and they're getting a load of praise 😅

I’m similar, and currently having another full day at home with her just in her knickers to try again. She knows she needs to go, but will just hold it even if she does sit on the toilet. I’ve not offered a nappy today and we’ve had one big accident.

Put a nappy on her right before she needs to go, but don't do it up, then sit her on the potty and let her wee onto the nappy that is IN the potty perhaps? And then eventually remove the nappy? I remember my health visitor saying some kids freak out about the idea of the wee "dropping down" so won't use toilets, like they don't like the sensation and noise of the wee/poo falling

We’ve made progress today, ever so so slightly. We had two little trickles in the potty so I’m going with it and just letting her lead and build confidence. Another full day of it again tomorrow 🤞

Today we did our first wee on the potty, literally came from nowhere. Refused for the rest of the day but at least she’s not scared and knows she can do it. Tomorrow is a new day 👏

Tomorrow is a new day and Tomorrow will be easier than today and so on and so forth, literally once it clicks it clicks and they thrive from independence and a new skill

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