How often do you and your SO have sex?

Once every few months ever since I had my son ,it’s like my husband doesn’t find me sexually attractive anymore. This makes me feel so lonely.

@Chichi There's no way! How long has it been going on like that?

It’s been like that for almost 3years, at first I thought it was because of the stress from work. Then I found out he was actually cheating,story of my life

@Chichi I'm so sorry 💔
You deserve better. It sounds like you are craving for better too!

3-4 times a week. Depending on how stressed or tired I am. It slowed down quite a bit after having our son, like 1-2 times a week mostly because we were both exhausted but it picked back up after about 8-9 months

Usually it would be around once to twice a week, however there's been a few things going on lately that have just caused us to lose our drives. I. Hoping once baby goes into her own room after Christmas that things will improve

I certainly am.

I have never had a high sex drive. It’s always been an issue in our relationship, even tho I let him know from the beginning this is how I was and that I know it can be a deal breaker for most men. He said he was okay with it, but just said that and thought differently.
It’s something he gives me so much grief for almost once a month and it’s been that way since almost 2 months in back in early 2018.

We have a 2 year old and a 3 month old, still get some 1-4 times a week 😂 the only thing that gets in the way sometimes is tiredness but the fire is definitely still there 😅

Things have been much better this time around, it took much longer after the birth of our first child to get back into wanting and having sex.

I felt this. I have no sex drive either after having my daughter and I use to love having sex and now I’m not sure what happened lol but my bf still has needs so we have sex 1-2 times a week but I could definitely go forever without having sex again lol

Uugghh I understand! My Husband wants To have sex all the time Bt personally, I’m terrified of having an unplanned pregnancy so I just try to avoid him! lol ever since I had my son 3yr ago, my cycle has been off and it’s been very hard to keep track of when I ovulate so I don’t want to take any chances! It’s so hard to NOT get pregnant especially when ur married!

right now like once a week

@Analisa I feel the same! I used to have a higher sex drive though. Mine will put so much pressure on me for sex, I feel super on edge all the time because I know that's what he wants 90% of the time!

How do you make yourself for him? I usually feel grossed out when I don't want to but feel like I have to

@Jasmin I do the avoiding thing too!! 🤣 it only can get me by so long tho..

Yup, and then that causes issues too because he doesn’t understand why I don’t ever want to do it “naturally”. Other than when I was pregnant with our two kids he has relentlessly pressure, bully, etc. me to have sex. I don’t like to drink either, but he forces me to drink alcohol so it’s better for him. I absolutely hate it. Life is miserable living this way. It’s so stressful day in and day out.

It's daily for us.

@Analisa I'm so sorry 💔 that sounds awful. I can imagine the stress. It sounds like mine x10! Have you told him about the alcohol before?

Imo not often enough. But I'm willing to settle for once a week.