How do u go from a family to a young single mum

Last night I found he cheated on me..again. The whole entire relationship, pregnancy and since the baby has been here he’s been begging other girls for nudes and all I find is girls racked up on his phone with their flaps out. He knew it was his last chance and he’s begging for me to stay. Our situation is so hard as I moved 200 miles away from everything I knew to be with him. Not only that but we got evicted so we are staying at his parents. I have no where else to go with the baby. I can’t move back as my parents house is too small, I want to get my own place but I have no money since I left my job bc of pregnancy, and I can’t stay with him. How on earth do u do it? The respect I have for single mums is insane but if anyone’s been in a similar situation to me I’d love to hear. I’m only 20, no money, no family or friends and now no father to my baby. I’m so scared

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Hey girl, I’m so sorry you are going through this. And especially being young and im sure it’s scary but take a breather don’t overwhelm yourself the situation is already a lot. Have grace with yourself. Everything will work out how it should🩷 if you need someone to talk to or vent I’m all ears🫶🏼

You gotta get creative baby girl, you may have more support than you know, once I started speaking my truth and told people what I was going thru meaning family and friends , doors opened

Your parents place may be too small but is the support there because you can stack money if they're helping you with baby and peace of mind is priceless

There are so many govt resources depending which region of the earth you live

Look into all your resources

He will always beg gurl mine was on his hands and knees

Be strong because he knows there's no consequences and will keep cheating on you if you stay

Go with the flow, I’m 21 and have a 3 year old and a nine month old. Best thing ever was staying away from their dad.

Try home finder if your in UK or get on your councils housing to start bidding for property

We have tons of resources here if you’re in the USA and keep ya head up

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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Hi everyone! I honestly have 0 social queues when it comes to talking to anyone in general. I definitely have a hard time talking to other women and making new friends. I can 100% relate. I just don’t like the idea of texting or meeting up but when I do I’m like “oh this isn’t bad.” Any advice? I also have a hard time getting comfortable and just feeling judged by other women😅 I’m also 19 so maybe making a change in this now will help in the future making mom friends/friends in general. Thanks in advance!

Looking for more same age friends!!

Hi! I’m 23 and a stay at home (soon to be) mom. I have been having a tough time finding friends/women in similar circumstances to mine and would love to make some if possible! If you feel the same, let me know

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Hi Mums

I live in New Zealand and I’m really keen on finding a regular best friend to chat with. It’s incredibly lonely. I love Australia and I think it would be fantastic to have friends there. If you’re comfortable with long-distance friendships we could meet up in New Zealand. I also want someone to video call because I currently have no friends every single day. I feel really lonely because I don’t have a nice family. I just want friends to become family one day and of course I need to trust them first which is why I’m making this post. I just got married 🥹👰❤️

My relationship is failing I feel so alone.. I need a girlfriend to talk to :(

I'm a sahm and I feel so stuck... anyone going through the same thing? I could really use someone to relate to and talk through this with. Feeling so vulnerable but if I don't I won't be able to pull myself out of this