Breastfeeding
My husband wants me to breastfeed for 2years and initially I wanted to do this for 6 months which I did exclusively but I’m seven months in and thinking of stretching until one year and my husband thinks it’s selfish of m

Me to do this how do I make him understand and avoid this whole drama

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Honestly he won’t understand either way if he doesn’t now. He is welcome to breastfeed for 2 years.

Your body your choice. It’s not selfish the goal is a fed healthy baby which can be accomplished by many means.

Make him walk to work. Explain using a car is selfish

the doctor has said this to him minimum of 2 years max of 4 so he can’t get this out of his head and keeps saying this and getting every time we talk about it

This is the first I have ever heard of a Dr saying this.

The doctor should have said it’s your choice and to do what’s best for your family while prioritizing the mental health of the mother

agreed I will definitely bring this up the next time we visit the doctor

I repeat your husband is welcome to breastfeed feed as long as he wants.

it's definitely not selfish of you. as someone who has been breastfeeding for over 2 years, i know it can be incredibly demanding, and if you don't want to do it, you absolutely shouldn't. it is your body and always your choice xx

1. Ignore his thoughts. He has all the freedom to share how he feels but it’s 100% up to you. He will need to come to terms with that on his own time.

2. As someone who didn’t plan on nursing after 6 months (going on 23 months now), just follow your intuition. Listen to your body and your baby to determine if you want to continue or not. You might make yourself miserable constantly feeling like you have to reach a goal that ultimately doesn’t need to be reached if your body simply can’t handle it. My baby has never taken a bottle or sippy cup and rejects all dairy products so I’ve decided to continue for her benefit. I’m at high risk for diabetes/cancer based on my family history so I’ve also decided to keep it up for my personal benefit. My husband will not benefit from me breastfeeding or not so his opinion won’t alter my nursing journey. Your husband should support you and do his own research on breastfeeding. It’s truly hard work to produce and nurse, it’s damn near a 2nd job.

Maybe explain to him how breastfeeding can take nutrients from the mother causing potential health issues, dehydration, sleep deprivation, etc. There are great alternatives like high quality formula, animal milk, multivitamins, and even breastmilk from other mothers who donate or sell their’s.

Tell him to get his boobs out if he wants to breastfeed for 2 years!

He just wants what's best for his child. And probably just going by whatever your doctor said. You could create a supply in the freezer and have your husband use it in foods and stuff for nutrients and stop breastfeeding. That way, it would make him feel better, and you feel better to be done.

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

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!!All advice welcome!! My 5 month old (nearly 6mo) is just not sleeping . Not for naps and not at night . She can’t connect her cycles . We started sleep regression at 3 months but in like how is this nearly been going on for a further 3 months . Like surely not . She has 10 min naps in crib ( which take so much effort ) and maybe 20/30 min naps in my arms/pushchair . She wakes minimum every hour at night with guaranteed false start 20 mins in . I combo feed. I breastfeed her until almost asleep then place her in the next to me crib give her the pacifier and put my hand on her cheek/face for 20 seconds and she drifts off . It’s not really getting her to sleep that’s the issue it’s she just won’t stay asleep . She doesn’t even need to feed much at night usually 1-2 breastfeeds . The rest is comfort wakes needing her pacifier or my hand on her cheek . I’ve looked into sleep associations and independent sleep and I broke the feed to sleep association and rocking and do bedside comforting instead for most wakes which has now lead to my hand being a sleep association on her face . I’m just so exhausted my husband is working mon-fri 9-9 and it’s just me . I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since her birth . I can’t get anything done during the day . She is so clingy and cries if I leave room /put her down etc. I love her so much but we both need rest . If anyone has any tips or a routine that could help PLEASE tell me I’ll try anything 🥲❤️❤️

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Breastfeeding My husband wants me to breastfeed for 2years and initially I wanted to do this for 6 months which I did exclusively but I’m seven months in and thinking of stretching until one year and my husband thinks it’s selfish of m

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