Big pay difference with husband and I

Me and my boyfriend split the bills but share funds after so it doesn’t really matter either way but I make double the amount my bf makes

my husband would still be paying all the bills lol. his choice and i’m not complaining either

Yall are one after getting married so YALL pay the bills ? If yall are keeping things separate then you pay most since you make more. 80/20

Most of both of our paychecks except 10% would be getting pooled into the same account to pay bills so it wouldn’t really matter but by that logic I’d probably be doing 80/20.

There’s no splitting when you’re married. It’s both your money. It goes into a joint account. That’s what any advisor will tell you and that’s how it works the best. We’ve gotta give up the “mine” and “theirs” after we vow to be one team. “My” car in my name is just as much my husband’s. Yes we still have our own accounts but we don’t really need them. We both put our checks into the joint and bills come out of it.

Me and my husband have always paid proportionately. When we earned the same we paid the bills 50/50, when I was on maternity pay it was more like 80/20 and so on. That would be exactly the same if I earned more than him. I’m a feminist, I want equality not special treatment.

Same as Madison above, we have always split bills 50/50 and then everything else is shared so doesn’t make a difference how much/different we earn.

I do admit it’s become a little easier now we both earn similar but there have been times I’ve earnt a lot less but that was never noticed as we are a family, everything is both of ours x

We don’t do 50/50, my husband pays most of the bills and I pay for most of the things for the kids. I earn slightly more than him but in our religion the man has to pay for everything and whatever the woman earns is hers. There’s nothing for others to understand about it except for that every couple does things differently and there’s not a right or wrong way.

I don’t get how people live like this probably because me and my partner have had a joint account since we was 21 😅 he earns more than me but everything goes into our joint account and we just use from there.. what’s his is mine what mine is his.. we spend / get what we want when we want but always put a chunk aside each month into savings xxx

I earn significantly more than my husband. All our money goes into one account. It’s our money not mine and his

To me 50/50 input means you're both left with roughly the same amount of money at the end of the month. There's no point paying half the bills each if 1 person has to live off £100 for the rest of the month while the other person has £800. Unless they're literally paying for everything else for the lower earner including social activities. A partnership should be fair.

I wouldn’t mind paying most or all of the bills however he’s old school so despite the pay gap, he pay for mainly everything because he says I’m better at saving so that’s what I do. God willing we’ll have a home soon and it allowed me to save up as much as I have for this new journey we are on. Every relationship is different.

All money is shared money in my marriage. We have a joint account and all money goes there so when bills are paid it comes from there.

My husband is horrible with money and at the moment, I would not let him have access to what I make. We do have a joint account for the bills and I just wanted to see what ppl thought was a fair amount. I am also the only one saving for our household

Both our paychecks go into our joint account. We use the same credit card for everything to consolidate and get points. I manage the finances since my husband can’t pay attention to paying bills but we pay everything through our joint accounts. There isn’t a separation.

Keep doing what you’re doing. You pay more bills, and don’t let him access your money

In my opinion when you are married it's BOTH of your guy's money. I'm not married and I'm a stay at home mom but my boyfriend works and takes care of our household financially but the money is considered ours. I never have to ask him to buy things for our kid/s (I have another son from a previous relationship) or for myself or our household and even when I was working we shared all of the money and split everything. I believe that's what works best financially for us and to be able to have a healthy relationship with money and budgeting etc.

We don’t split it in any sort of way. I pay all the utilities and he pays everything else.

I definitely understand that every household is different but 9 times out of 10 if the woman makes significantly more, they are splitting bills some kind of way.. with or without a joint account

Joint account 💯
We did split 50/50 until we got married. Which sucked bc he makes SIGNIFICANTLY more than me.
But it’s easier to pull out from one pot

Something proportional sounds fair. But not 50/50!

Depends. Is it 50/50 for house chores /parental loads,... ?
It's not only about being economically even. It's about both of you giving it all (shared load, economy,...)

I would say 50/50 because usually women takes on more house and parental load.

We have separate accounts but we both pay the portion that we are able to, and if we have any left over put it in a shared savings account. I used to make more than him, now he makes more than me, we just work together on how to spend it but we both like having our own accounts

it is 50/50 on everything else. He cooks more than I do but i definitely clean more. The kids are about 50/50 as well. I make substantially more that is why I think I will be ok with 80/20.

exactly! I wouldn’t want everything shared lol you wouldnt even be able to get an Amazon haul or even a surprise gift for hubby without him knowing how much you spent or where you got it lol

that’s literally splitting lol you’re paying a portion of the bills and he is paying a portion

We’ve always contributed the same percentage of our income into our shared account.

@incognito yeah I've been through a divorce and he had bad experiences with parents withdrawing from his account without permission so we both feel more secure with some independence. And I don't need to know about every little purchase he makes. Plus I like that we both share responsibility for budgeting and mentally keeping track of when our bills are due, etc.

exactly!! I know several of couples that when they got a divorced, they ended up with nothing because someone drained their joint accounts. I definitely don’t plan on divorce but I’ve seen it happen way too many times

Yeah. Then 70/30 or 80/20 sounds fair for everyone 🤗

I meant we don’t split them in any % way. What I pay always looks different anyways. What he pays is a set amount. Mine varies based on usage. And if we are talking about what percentage of our income we use to pay things. It’s 100% for both us.

I guess you can put it that way but you’re still paying bills and he is still paying bills lol.. you can put that into a percentage as well. If you add bills he pays and the bills you pay together, the amount he pays vs what you pay will be a percentage lol

that’s what we are doing lol both adding to one account to pay all of the bills

My husband and I have a separate account, no joint account at all. I make more than he does so I pay the rent and if there’s money left over from paying the rent, I’ll pay one or two of the small bills then he pays the rest of the small bills or vice versa. My husband and I discuss what bills one of us will pay and vice versa. We know how much we have in each others bank account. When we buy something, we both discuss with each other before purchasing.

Usually it is advised to do equitable split not equal split. That means 50% of ones salary and 50% of other one salary goes to joint account for expenditure.

If partner1 is earning 1000 bucks and partner2 is earning 200 bucks.
They will contribute 500 and 100 bucks to joint account.

I make a LOT more but we do an equitable split. We’re about 60/40. Really it’s just who has it if there’s an unexpected expense. I’m not a saver and he is, but I’m a breadwinner. It evens out for us.