Feeling so overwhelmed

I had my baby 10 days ago, and I feel so overwhelmed.. like tearful and anxious about my new life now. I’m finding it incredibly difficult to adapt to this new way of life and being responsible for a small baby, I’m sad that I can’t just come home and sleep or make dinner, I love my baby beyond words but I’m finding it really hard to settle, is this a normal feeling to have? Will things feel better in a few weeks?

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In the same boat. Down to the birth date. I am hoping it gets easier too, I'm sure it does.. ❤️

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It absolutely gets better, it’s such a big change and there’s so many hormones that come with post birth, I remember this feeling like it was yesterday but i promise it gets so much better xxx

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Very normal, your hormones are still all over place, you have a new little person to care for, tiredness etc. It will settle and you'll feel like its never been any different. Baby will sleep more so you can sleep, have a bath etc. It's very early days.
My son is 3 and i can't for life of me remember anything about first couple months. They are just a blur now.

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Feeling exactly same! I had mine few days before. I also feel on top that can I really take care of my tiny human or I am not doing enough. Feel like I am all over the place with emotions and physical discomfort.

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Completely normal. Having a baby is so overwhelming. Especially when it’s your first. Your whole life is flipped upside down and true sleep deprivation is something else! But I promise you it gets easier. They will sleep longer, they will start to give you something back and engage more and seeing them grow is truly amazing! I have a 2 year old and had our second 12 days ago. As Rachel said above, I barely remember those early days (or nights mainly!) with my first now. The nights are long but the days are short. It’s so hard, especially at the start but everything will settle down and you will eat in peace and sleep again xx

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It’s completely normal, I had this feeling for the first week and then I began to look beyond the emotions and everything fell into place with being able to put my baby into a night time routine which helps massively in terms of getting enough sleep and some time for my time. Just take your time lovely, only a message away if you want to talk more xx

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Completely normal. In fact I think it’s more strange not to feel that way! Studies have shown it takes on average about 4 months to settle in to your new life of motherhood. You’re right at the beginning too, it’s all brand new, hormones going crazy, baby blues, physically recovering, mentally adjusting. It’s a lot for anyone.

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Dropping into say this is exactly how I felt until about just under 3 weeks. Baby is now a month and I'm just about getting there.

Christ I think the first week all I did was cry.

I had to go to midwife on day 3. Baby screamed at the car seat, I cried because she was upset so bad I couldn't breathe. Then got to the midwife and all she did was smile and I cried.

Month in and the days just seem a little 'lighter' if that makes sense, as if I'm crawling out of my pit now. It is so overwhelming and post Partum is actually the biggest drop in hormones a human being will experience!

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