What would you do?

So I’ve hard postpartum sex now that I just turned 6 weeks. It’s very painful, even going slow and in slow and with lube it’s still uncomfortable and hurting. But my boyfriend does not understand my pain nor does he even care. He just wants to be fucking multiple times a day. I said take it easy and he won’t care. Now, who else? What would you do? It’s sad he is the one enjoying it and I am not because of the pain.

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I wouldn't let him at all. He can jerk off. His hand works just as well.

he is going to get so so mad. Let me see how it goes, but he got mad when I said no the baby is crying can’t continue. Now I feel sharp pain because he wanted to but it hurts no matter what.

If he's gonna get mad because you're in pain and cannot fuck while you're child is crying, he's definitely not worth it in my opinion. He sounds like a narcissist

I agree! My fiancé and I have stopped doing what we’re doing to take care of our baby multiple times. If I ask him to stop or anything, he does no problem. He doesn’t get mad and he has been patient during this whole postpartum experience. I would talk to him at the very least and tell him how you’re feeling, and if he doesn’t care and gets mad anyways, that’s a big problem! I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Postpartum is hard enough, you should at least have a supportive partner.

he is Mexican. He only cares for him is what I’m thinking he don’t care about me being in pain!

I’m so happy for you girl 💕 must be nice tbh. And the majority of depression and sadness and anxiety coming from him. My Dr. sent me meds to take in case I feel like I need it. Like I can’t believe he doesn’t care how I feel and if I am in pain. It’s so ridiculous. And he wanted to continue sex and let baby cry. I said no! Plus, it was just the insertion but can’t even let it all in because it’s very painful. I stopped, I should probably leave if he doesn’t care!

A man who doesn’t care that he’s hurting you is not a good man….

A man who forces himself on you, especially when you’re saying anything other than “yes,” is not a good man….

Please keep yourself and your baby safe from harm. Physically and psychologically

good point! Thank you 🫶🏼

I’m 8 weeks pp and i’m terrified. Me and my boyfriend have obviously had the sex talk but i don’t him i’m not ready. i can clearly see he wants to but im to scared. And i know he’s wont pressure me until im ready. If he loved you he would understand it hurts and wait.

as he should!!

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