Sex after episiotomy

Can anyone describe their experience of sex after an episiotomy/bad tear?
Does it hurt?
What was it like?

I’m scared!!

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It hurts, use lots of lube. It takes some tries, because it needs to stretch x

I didn't find it painful after mine. it felt different and we went really slowly but all was fine

I found it wasn’t painful but just a little sore we took it slow the first time as I was worried too but honestly there was nothing to worry about!

If you are scared then wait X I had minimal tears and no episiotomy and not planning sex anytime soon. Well not sooner than 10-12 weeks postpartum 🙌🏼 Don't see myself risking any infection or injury or even discomfort earlier. And there are ton of other options how to be intimate ❤️❤️

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