PPA Is a Monster…Again

I know the statistics and all, but can someone please still remind me that it’s impossible to “spoil” my little (5 months) with snuggles? He’s been putting himself to sleep at night and earlier he started waking up but I waited until he cried before I intervened to help him back to sleep. He woke up when I put him down and was able to put himself back to sleep. Great, awesome. I was proud of him for doing it and myself for staying back long enough to let him try until he needed me. All that said, I can’t sleep and I’m laying in bed watching him. I want to hold and snuggle him since I’m awake anyway, but I just keep hearing my relative in the back of my mind telling me to hold him only when he needs me or he’ll be spoiled and expect it. Someone truth smack me please. The anxiety is louder than logic.
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i heard the same thing from MANY relatives!! I figured it’s a cultural thing , but anyway my baby is 13 months old now and she plays by herself and comes to me and her daddy when she wants snuggles. She’s not “spoilt” ya can’t spoil a baby, don’t worry. The time goes by so quick , get in alll the snuggles !!

I hear the same things from my relatives regardless if I tell them she’s my kid not theirs…… if she wants a cuddle I give her cuddles she’s 9 months and will ask for snuggles and cuddles. A baby no matter the age even me I still go to my mum. If they need us we know if they want hugs and snuggles we know. A baby can’t talk so crying and ask for cuddles and giving what they want and need isn’t spoiling at all if anything it helps grow a strong bond and shows the bubba that they have you there when they need you!! Xxx

You cannot spoil a baby with love and meeting their needs darling! We've had the most results in child development in the last 30 years than ever before and it's proven it time and time again but it means we are the first generation to have full access to it so older generations will not understand or often entertain it because they were told they had to develop independence ASAP so they could care for the home or get back to society ASAP. If you wanna hold your baby. Hold your baby darling 💜

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