Pulling 1 year old up by her arms

is he pulling her up with force? maybe you could just show him a better way to help her up?

@Sarah not yanking, but dragging her up I'd say. She's a big baby (95th centile for weight) so it'll put extra stress on her joints to have her full weight dangling from her arms. Good idea to show him a better way!

Maybe you could say something on the lines that they (health professionals) mentioned to you her shoulders are still developing and they have shown you a way to support her rather than him thinking it’s you if don’t like confrontation. Also have you said to your partner about it?

Ok now I’m confused. Like just from a sitting to a standing position? Idk if that’s the same as hanging the baby by their arms or pulling them up to hold them by their arms. Can someone clarify this for me? They’re obviously going to be helping with their legs if they’re just sitting on the floor and then being pulled to a standing position by their hands.

i like to say nonchalantly “be careful not to pull her up hard , i don’t want her arm to pop out of the socket” and add sometimes that she’s sensitive to it. i don’t like family swinging my girl by the arms but they’ll do only a couple because my girl wants to do it but then they stop because they know i prefer they don’t do it. kinda have to meet people in the middle (if they’re not doing it with bad intent) i noticed at the park my girl can actually hold her own weight when hanging from monkey bars so it makes me feel better that she has that strength in her arms