I don't think my kids deserve Chrismas present

Maybe sit down and explain that her teacher who brought it out of her own money gifted it to her when she didn’t have to get her anything and since she doesn’t appreciate it that she can put the present back in the bag and go donate it to someone who would appreciate it and isn’t so fortunate this Christmas if she doesn’t even like it. And make sure to follow through. I honestly don’t know. My littles are still too young but this is something I’d do

Please don’t take Christmas away from your children. Children learn the most by example…not giving them gifts will not teach them to be grateful…also do they not believe in Santa? Imagine how sad they’d be to get nothing after being excited all month. Model generosity and graciousness and enjoy Christmas with your children.

@Sharnee thats exactly what I did and am thankful I did it, but I feel like it goes through one ear and get out through the other 😮‍💨

@Mariah thank you for this; I needed to read this! And you are totally right!
They do believe in Santa yes (we do one gift from Santa and the rest from family)

They are kids and they are still small. Repetition is key. Communication is important. Like Mariah said, teach by example.
I understand you feel frustrated but I don’t think not giving them gifts for Christmas would help this situation or make you feel like you achieved anything productive either. Your kids are just kids. You are not doing anything wrong and they will still grow up to be beautiful humans.
Enjoy the holidays and make beautiful memories with them 🤍

That would be frustrating! Like others said have conversations with her, explain there are some kids who don't have any toys and would really love a toy like that. This year my oldest and I went to the store and picked out a toy for a boy and girl and donated them at the toy drive, she picked the toys out and was excited to give them away. Another year we did a shoe box and filled it full of school supplies and a toy for a child who was in need and created a list of school items they needed.
Of course my little one asks for a toy for herself but I just explain- sorry it doesn't have your name on it today and its waiting for another child to come and buy it. I also remind her were here for other kids and are picking them a special gift, she really likes to choose toys for others now. Maybe your child would enjoy giving back to others too ♡ your doing all the right things, I hope your holidays are great with your kiddos!

I would talk to her about what being nice, kind, and generous means. Tell her about how important it is not just at Christmas but all year through.

Start by asking her if she thought her behaviour towards her teacher and the gift was nice? Ask her what she could have done instead? Ask her how we can be nice over Christmas? Then, encourage this behaviour.

Start a new tradition where she donates some of her toys and clothes every few months. Or at least every Christmas. You can buy toys for the hospitals and charities and stuff. My friend does shoebox filled with goodies that get sent out for Christmas. You can do goodie baskets for the police and firebrigades.

Gifts or goodie baskets to aged care facilitie.

My SIL does something called "Share The Dignity." Where you fill handbags and backpacks with hygiene products and small goodies for those in homeless and women's shelters and those leaving DV situations.

There is so much you can do.

Put that gift that the teacher gave under the Christmas tree. When it's Christmas day she will see that she only has that gift to appreciate lol and see her reaction.


And latter give her Christmas gifts you bought for her.❤️

It seems slightly cruel to not give presents especially for the reasons you have given. This time of year they are very tired and overwhelmed.
Maybe like someone said make them readies that not every child/ adult has a nice Xmas.
I have an autistic son and if I was to di what your doing he’d never celebrate Xmas. It would also make a fairly awful Xmas day and probably would make him feel like what’s the point and would actually worsen his behaviour.

The problem is you're think like an adult & they are just little 4/5 year olds thinking like 4/5 year olds. She gets a gift bag, full of possibilities, disappointment number 1, there's actually only 1 thing in the bag. Disappointment number 2 it's not a toy she wanted, possibilities gone. At 4/5 she doesn't understand the social etiquette of dealing with a disappointing gift or the ingratitude of being disappointed by such a gift.
Also taking their Christmas presents away can result in making their behaviour worse. Taking things away, with no opportunity to earn them back just teaches kids to do hard time and takes away their incentive to be good.
It's fine to feel frustrated & like taking Christmas away from them, just don't actually do it. A 10+ kid who's staying out past midnight, vandalising people's homes, shop lifting & other anti social behaviour, that's the time to take away Christmas, not a 4/5 year old who's still learning what gratitude means.

I'll send her a letter from and elf in the north pole telling her how his worried that she's losing her Christmas spirit and maybe do some activities no gifting related to remember Christmas magic and go with you to donate that gift, and pass on the magic. I've remember having my kids that small. Sometimes, a lot of talking doesn't work. They are more open to outsiders' words

They're small. I know it's frustrating but they're still so little. Don't take away Christmas. Find a way to remind them that they are fortunate. Like maybe with the 5yr old they can help at a soup kitchen. Or you can collect some of the toys they don't want and have them deliver it to a shelter for other children.

Get them one simple yet thoughtful gift, but don't take Christmas away. They will forever remember not getting a gift.