My husband bought me 0 christmas gifts

Your not being selfish. You deserve a little something for Christmas. I mean you had 3 kids and are going to have another. That’s a lot and he should be putting in some sort of effort. He thought of everyone else he could have gotten you anything like you said a card or flowers. I’d talk to him about it and let him know how your feeling. Also who cares if your not a kid anymore, I know I love opening presents too hah it’s fun and you don’t get to do it often as an adult. And we’ve got kids now it’s like a license to be a bit kid like with our kids.

see part of me wants to still give him gifts to make him feel guilty having a bunch of presents and I get to sit there with nothing

exactly we talked so much about how like I like sentimental things I want to feel appreciated and loved i don't care if it's 5 bucks like just to know i was thought about

very true. I just want to be thought about every once in a while yk it feels like he couldn't even think about me enough to get me something that was worth five dollars

This makes my heart hurt I’m so sorry - it’s not materialistic or selfish.

He didn’t even have the thought that counts.

I’d talk to him because mama you deserve it for doing so much for him and the kids plus your growing a little baby from scratch. Your doing the hard work even sleeping.

Ii understand shopping afterward for actual gifts if yall decided on that later but there is still plenty of time to get stocking stuffers

Believe me, you don't want something worth only 5 dollars. That also sucks. I still get my boyfriend gifts even though he sucks at gift giving, but I try to restrain myself from going too overboard. I still spent about 80 bucks on presents for him this Christmas. I'm dreading that he got me cheap ass crap again. Last Christmas is was a vase in a heart shape with no flowers in it. It was okay. Better than nothing, which is what he used to do. I probably spent about 250 bucks on him last year for Christmas, and he lost one of the shirts I got him before ever wearing it. I definitely feel devalued by his gift giving or lack thereof. I ask for plants, he gets me a weird vase with no flowers. Really though him being oblivious maybe doesn't actually reflect the strength of his feelings for me. Does make me wonder though.

I do want to point out that what you agreed on going from were not getting each other anything to one present to whatever might be a bit confusing. I have to spell shit out for my boyfriend. Even then he wants to get me what he wants to get me I guess. (Sigh) I would make it abundantly clear that you decided to scratch the no gifts and one gift idea and tell him what you would like for Christmas, and how many gifts you got him so he can try to match your effort.

exactly

we talked about it multiple times over the past week I've sent him stuff I want I feel like he just doesn't care. He says he'll take me shopping but we've had multiple conversations about how sentimental gifts mean the most to me. He didn't get me anything for mothers day either

exactly like I didn't get myself anything cuz he said he was going to get me some gifts or at least fill my stocking. I just don't get it. He bought gifts for his friends but not his wife

he just is always like this. Nothing for mothers day this year either and we lost our daughter two weeks before. He got his mom stuff and he got his ex wife stuff to give from their daughter but couldn't manage a card or flowers for me. It just hurts. Even if he got me a piece of crap it would be bettercthan nothing at least he tried yk it's the thought that counts idk

i feel like I did tho I clarified with him multiple times and told him I was buying him gifts sent him stuff I wanted cus he told me well idk what you want he was just very disinterested from the start it kinda breaks my heart a little bit

I'm sorry. I've felt this way with my boyfriend. I'm kind of dreading Christmas a bit because I'm hoping I don't feel devalued due to his gift or lack there of. He does get me something but shit from dollar tree is not much better than nothing for me.

I asked my husband for no presents this year. I will get no presents and he will get no presents. We communicated and followed through. I will not be disappointed as I asked him not to get presents. Shifting the goalposts to a vague expectation after agreeing something definite would have made things confusing.

Nah fuck that. Go up to him right now and say "yo, Christmas is in 4 days, I'm your wife, and you WILL gift me a present."