My MIL ruined my wedding. Six years later I still can’t move on. Shall I do a small wedding do over?

I think if you think it will help, then it WILL help. So go ahead.

Not married but I did over some other things which I felt got taken over by others and it helped! Good luck !

I unvited my MIL to my wedding! - if you feel it will help you, DO IT! wedding grief is a genuine thing ❤️

What did she do that was so terrible that you look back and are only upset?

Vow renewal with the three of you sounds nice, why not? My husband and I eloped and didn't invite anyone and it was nice to just make it about us. My first wedding (ex husband) seemed more for everyone else and the parents on both sides had so many opinions.

I think it’s a good idea but I think therapy is also important

My in-laws ruined our wedding so my husband and I have talked about doing a vowel renewal in a few years

everything from
Who’s invited and who’s not to food choices to date. She ruined it all.

That’s terrible. Did she at least pay for it all?
I think you should do a just you guys vow renewal if you want to.
We never had a wedding so we’re starting to plan a 10 year anniversary vow renewal now. I’m so excited. One of the reasons we didn’t have our big wedding in the first place is I wasn’t on a good place with my parents and his were overbearing. Do what makes you happy.

Is she still in your life

No one ruined my ceremony, it was situational. It was rushed, and unexpected, and it’s not what I wanted or dreamed of. I was upset and bitter about it for years. We ended up doing a re-do, just 2 of us. I wore what I loved, we wrote vows and we did our first dance, etc. We recorded the whole thing. I was happy and it did help me and gave me closure.

I sadly was in a very different headspace when I got married, and I let my mother’s opinion color what I did for my wedding. Looking back, I have a lot of regret surrounding the wedding, when it happened, who was there, who wasn’t, what I allowed myself to be pressured into…

I’ve thought of a vow renewal/do over, but I don’t think my husband would be up for it.

Ah man I’m so sorry she did that to you. :(

Didn’t have the same situation but we did have a small wedding at the town hall in my husband’s country so my siblings were not able to be there as it was all last minute.

So a couple months later in the UK we surprised my family with a little impromptu ceremony at my parents house on Christmas Day. I’m so glad we did it because really they were the only thing missing that still upset me ❤️they loved it and it was very special! And since we did it I feel like it was complete and we don’t need to do anything else.

So yes; if you feel drawn to do the intimate vow renewal to create a new memory of your wedding I’d 100% do it!

I would do vow renewals without her there. “Just try and move on” probably won’t work if it’s already been six years

Hmmm, you are supposed to cherish that day for the years to come. So basically, you'll never forget and forgive it, vow renewal with no MIL is the way forward 😂😂

My ex MIL gave a 30 min speech about how she had to call the emergency line when she found out we were getting married. She wore opposite colours to what I requested, peeved off my mom to the point that she walked out of getting our hair done together, lol 😂 never re-did but if we stayed together maybe a getaway renewal would have been nice on our terms!

❤️

I know but you know what’s hard? I wouldn’t mind having my parents there but my husband wouldn’t sign up for just one set of parents

Thank you everyone

heartbreaking isn’t it. I spent over a grand on a photographer and also don’t have any photos out because of the bad memories.
Do you mind sharing what went wrong in yours?

ah I feel for you, that does sound awful!!!