PPD

How long did your ppd last in on 3 months and trying not to bitjer my family with talking about it. But I can’t stop getting upset at myself or feeling like I’m drowning but I have help. It’s so hard to explain.

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PPD can last, or even just present, upwards of 2 years post partum.
I feel like ot definitely last longer without additional help. And I dont mean like people helping with baby, I mean professional mental help.
If you havent already seeked a therapist, I would recommend this :)

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It took a year for my ppd and ppa to get better on its own.

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is right on about the upwards of 2 years. Talk to your OB and/or mental health professional ASAP and get the help! Navigating PPD is so hard and we can’t and shouldn’t do it all on our own. 🫂

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Also, don't avoid pills just because of the stigma of them. They can be an absolute gamechanger when you find the right med/dose.
Things don't need to be this hard. I've been on antidepressants for most of the last 12 years (took 4 different meds to find the right one). I still had to up my dose after my second was born. She's 2 now, and I'm considering dropping it back down gradually to see if things have actually improved.

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It’s been 3 months for me too

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Mine that at around 8 months pp and I finally crawled out around 18 months. It sucked so much and I feel like my baby suffered because of me.

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I had it for closer to two years. I lived with my man and his family and they were not the most supportive. I had baby help but not when it came to myself and I wasn’t understood until I finally told my General doctor. This time around my OB asks me every time how I’m feeling so it doesn’t happen again and we can get ahead of it. So I definitely recommend speaking to your doctor about what options you have as far as counseling or medication. It’s completely okay to need that help mentally

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