Anyone else hate co-sleeping?

Have been co-sleeping for the last 7 months and I’m so fed up with it. My husband sleeps in a different room, so this also affects our relationship. I barely get any sleep as she still wakes up every 2 hours for what I assume is a comfort feed?! Also occasionally just wakes up for 2 hours in the night 🙃

We’ve recently been trying to get her in her own room as she turned 6 months, but she won’t do more than 20 mins in her own bed. Have briefly tried gentle sleep training methods, but we can’t even put her down before she starts hysterically crying again. We try this for a couple of hours before giving in because we all need some sleep to function and not be grumpy!

Anyone else had this experience/can give any advice?!

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Ah 6 months is such a tricky time because separation anxiety increases too! 🙈 are you co-sleeping in her room atm or your room? X

I personally love cosleeping, but my husband and I have a king sized bed and he sleeps with us - just on his side - and we have no issues.

I'm love hate with co-sleeping. I absolutely love seeing my little boy next to me and waking up to his smile..but I'm sick of sleeping on my side and he also wakes 2 hourly. My husband is in the spare room too and I miss him. We've not even tried getting him in the next to me in months so I doubt we'll have any luck with his cot. I can occasionally manage to sneak away from him in the night to watch telly with my husband for an hour.

Aww I’m so sorry you’re going through this 💕 Have you thought of bringing baby’s cot in your room so she still sees you, feels safe and comfortable and maybe goes to sleep in there? I was in a similar situation and did that, now we all sleep in the same room but she’s in her own cot 6m old. Hubby and I share the load of feeding her when she’s up twice

I put my LO in her crib from day 1...couldn't co-sleep or have her in the same room. Do you do naps in the crib to get her comfortable there? Do you have a mobile so they can have something to look at and feel like it's a fun safe space? We also got the baby Einstein aquarium and she stares at it forever. Good luck!

I would put her in a cot in the same room with you, as a start. You can move her out in a few weeks. I didn't like cosleep either. Now my 13 month old baby is in his cot in his room but I still need to be with him while falling asleep for 15-20minutes. At 6 months they just eat a lot, it is a phase. You will get there ❤️

I’m feeling similar, I think I want to stop bed sharing soon but it’s hard to find the right time isn’t it.. my LO is 3 months and wanting comfort feeds at least twice in addition to a proper feed. Sometimes patience starts wearing a bit thin despite three adorable wake up smiles and lovely cuddles!!

I could have honestly wrote this post a couple months ago word for word !!!! And it honestly was a phase my son was the exact same EXACT ! And we’re out of it now and he sleeps from 8-2:30 and back down till 6 ! I don’t really have any advice as we just stuck it out but it will pass ♥️

We couldn’t move away from co-sleeping until my lo was 14 months 😬 I was able to stop feeding to sleep, he finally wouldn’t fight it and just let me rock him and after two weeks of doing that he pushes off of me and just want to lay down and self settle. Sleep is developmental and some babies temperaments just mean you can’t rush it. Mine could scream for hours when we tried to do anything else. He was also waking every 1.5-2 hours but now he’s going to sleep on his own he’s sleeping 7-8 hours before waking which means we can put him in his crib for the start and me and my partner get some time together. I know it sounds like forever but they’re only little for such a short period of time. I found it hard but now I don’t regret those 14 months of cuddles and bedsharing.

My girl is 7 months and like you, I hate co sleeping! I never get decent sleep when she's in with me. We always start off with her in the cot, but she inevitably ends up in our bed at some point at the min!

We sleep trained our son at 8 months because he kept waking every 2 hours too he now sleeps in his own room 11-12 hours a night best thing we ever done everyone sleeps and is so much happier and my husband got his side of the bed back

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6week old pretty much slept through the night?!

6 week old baby slept through her usual night feed. Usually wakes at 3am and 6am. Plenty wet and dirty nappies. Was last weighed a few weeks ago and had gone past her birth weight. Due to be seen and weighed again in 2 days. Is more awake during the days now. Having both breastmilk and formula. Is this OK? She had ger last feed at 10pm Went to bed at 11pm and woke up on her own at 5.20am. The clocks had obviously gone forward and u almost feel refreshed after a longer sleep!!

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It is 3am . Your toddler wakes in the night having wet the bed.

You can't find a waterproof sheet but you can find a normal sheet for his bed.

You are pretty sure there is a waterprpof sheet in your 11 month old's room.

But your 11 month old only just got to sleep after a half hour of being awake

Do you...

Clocks changing + late wake up

My LO woke up around 8.30am (would have been 7.30am obv) which feels illegal 😂 although there are definitely worse problems to have and wondering how to work naps now?
He normally naps twice a day and has 1.5 hours for each, although sometimes will have a longer nap in the morning and then a shorter one in the afternoon. His wake windows are around 3/3.25/3.5 so it’s going to be a late bedtime as it stands.
Thoughts? Should I cap his naps so I can put him to bed earlier and get things back on track or just let things take their course? He’s likely to eventually get back to an earlier wake up anyway.

Fussy baby

My 12 day old has been fussing since 3am (4 hours). She had a 50 minute feed at that time and has been on and off the breast since but falls asleep very quickly when on, I have burped her, given a formula top up, walked around tried to soothe but nothing is working. Anyone else had this, is it just normal newborn behaviour or any other ideas of things to try?

Baby room

We ve just bought a new 3 bed and we are fighting about this before we ve even moved in. My husband wants to make the 3rd room into "his study' and a TV room. He wants to put in a sofa bed. (He does not work from home and has no real purpose for a study other than studying or doing the occasional admin. There is a living room where we will have a TV).

I want to make it a room for our 10 month old. His argument is that we co sleeping anyway and therefore she doesn't need a room. But she is the most important person in our lives. Its the house that she ll have her childhood in, ofcourse she ll need room. We need to do everything we couldn't do when we were pregnant, because we were renting. We need to do a cute nursery for her to grow up in. She can have her naps in her room. She can play in her room. Her books and her changing station can go there.
He is saying, that if I really wanted one I can just use the 2nd room. But this meant to be the guest room. And we can't exactly put a child's floor bed onto this room and expect guests to sleep in it. So he said they can just use the sofa bed in the other room then. But the guest who stay over for us are our elderly parents. Particularly his (who are abroad) who have all sorts of pain. I really dont think they ll be comfortable on a sofa bed for like a month.

I personally think 'his study' (still dont understand why he needs one and why i dont need one, or a dressing room or whatever) can be part of the guest room. And the baby should be given the smallest room.

Thoughts? Solutions?

Clock changes

How is everyone going about the clock changes? I didn’t realise the clocks changed this weekend so haven’t done anything gradually, I’m thinking just go with it and things will sort themselves out?! I have the napper app but it’s just doing its normal thing with nap times etc, doesn’t seem to be adjusted… FTM so never done this😅