How do you teach baby to self soothe?

Our LO is 13 weeks and will only nap if fed to sleep and it’s kept as a contact nap, or rocked to sleep usually with lots of tears but we can then put him in his Moses basket.

How do I start to teach him to self soothe? I’ve read lots of articles that recommend putting him down awake but drowsy, however when I’ve tried this he just screams.

He doesn’t take a dummy and is no longer swaddled.

Any help would be appreciated, thanks.

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What helped us was to actually stimulate our baby by playing or walking to different rooms, however, each baby is different. It takes time to get to know him and what works best. You're doing great, without the pacifier it may be a bit more challenging but you're doing great mama. Best of luck!

13 weeks is very young to be able to self soothe. My little boy just turned 9 months and only has just started to self soothe, prior to that rocking, singing, patting were the only ways we could get him to sleep. They actually learn to self soothe from being soothed so I would continue with the rocking etc, he will get there eventually.

Thank you for your comments. It’s really reassuring as I wasn’t sure if we were doing it all wrong 🥰.

My favourite reminder... "No one works harder than a baby sleep consult". Don't get consumed with all the BS advice

Even being fed to sleep is totally normal, that is such a beautifully soothing thing for a baby!
I’m doing exactly as you’re doing and trying to let the bs go! We have so much pressure on us to train our babies faster than they can develop and it’s just too much and unrealistic. Yes it may work for some babies but all babies are different. Maybe some parents get lucky with early sleep habits, others will be lucky with other aspects. There’s no such thing as a perfect baby!

The putting down drowsy thing is dubbed the golden rule so much but it doesn’t ’work’ to get them a long independent nap. I think maybe it helps for the long term perhaps but I don’t think it’s necessary this early as it often just results in distress for everyone!

I didn’t sleep train till 6 months but prime time for sleep training is 4 months. And the screaming and crying was horrible but worked by day 3. I used the Ferber method. Feed, burp, read a book, cuddles, lay down drowsy. Leave the room. Come back in 7 minutes, settle him down, lay back down walk away. Repeat till asleep. You can slowly start increasing the time between each intervention.

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Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

Don’t want to leave my first born😭😭😭

Anyone else extremely sad and anxious to leave their first born😭

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FTM here! 👋

Are you guys feeding your baby to sleep?

I just read feeding to sleep is creating bad habit and baby will always cry etc when awake at night expecting to get bottle before falling asleep again. 🤔
It said should feed the baby, give a bath (or not) and then put to sleep.
I do other way around - bath, pjs/lotion, rock to sleep and feed at the same time and then baby falling asleep.
Am I creating a bad habit? Been doing it all the time really. 😳