Do 8 year old boys have a bad attitude? My 8 year old boy, can be super kind and sweet, however I see that continuously giving me the I HATE EVERYTHING I DO attitude, any trips we plan is bad, or whatever is just boring and sucks 🥹😰

Maybe something is going on with him. Have there been any other changes? Part of it is getting older, but behavior is only a result of something.

I have thought about it, he actually is very vocal when something bothers him which is constantly, he tells me everything what happens in school and in general and nothing that he tells me has caused to say that because “of that” his attitude had changed.

I see that kids copy what they see at home and my husband used to have a very similar attitude that he I am sure was copying, however my husband has stopped giving these attitude’s because I told him he needs to stop and it’s being a year already but my son he keeps doing it.

And since I am a calm person and I encourage my both boys to be gentle and kind, it’s getting to my nerves that I lose it and I just hate feeling that I am loosing it.. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Okay soo when I try to teach my children empathy I give them a scenario. So if your case you can ask if yall can speak alone & in a safe space. Then ask him if there’s something you’re doing as a parent that’s upsetting him & causing his behavior (list his behaviors that you don’t approve of (the rude behavior)) then you could say (depending on his response) “let’s say if you were to bake mommy a birthday cake with daddy.” - “how would it make you feel if I didn’t say thank you, rudely voiced I didn’t like the cake or didn’t eat the cake bcus it was ugly.”
Wait for his response, if it’s not a great response then you can explain what empathy is & give him examples of it.

If he does give a relatively a good response then thank him for talking with you, apologize if he feels you’re failing at some parts & just explain to him why it may seem like you’re “failing” & you can also explain that you love to plan these things so you can spend time with him & make memories bcus you love him.

(Separate conversation imo but up to you ofc)
You could also ask the dad to talk to him with you about the bad behavior he’s copied from him so he can understand that his dad stopped said behavior because he understood it wasn’t healthy behavior.

this is a great idea, thank you so much, I will implement that 🙏🙌🫶🏻

My son is now 9* and he is so sweet and kind to me now. There was a bit of patch where he pulled back from me a bit but my son is caring and empathetic. I didn’t have to be more strict with him. I give him space and now he comes to me and asks me if he can talk to me and I know then he needs my full attention and just needs some guidance and he always says thanks at the end. I’m so proud of the little man he’s turning into. Gentle parenting has done so much to improve my relationship with my kids. You got this momma!

thank you so much for sharing your experience with me, there are times I get very confused with his behavior, last night I told him and I normally try to repeat myself what we are going to do.
He goes to sleep at 9PM, he was entertained and I am sure he was tired as well, however I told him it was time to go to sleep and he said No, that he won’t go and give me a hard time, did not want to listen, he hated it me he said, I am sure he does not mean it, it’s just difficult sometimes not to lose my patience.

So your words helps, thank you. I believe this will pass 🫶🏻