Anxiety r.e. giving birth early
My birth partner has told me that his work has asked him to go on a business trip for a day and half, which is when I will be 38 weeks. He's going to Italy, which is only a 2 hour plane journey, but I don't have any family living nearby.
I'm worried about potentially going into labour early, but also know that the baby could come late. I know that it is most unlikely that I will give birth on my exact due date. I just don't want to be alone/him missing me giving birth, as this is my first child.
I have asked him tonight to see if he can bring forward the date of his meeting and speak to work about it... He said he will ask them.
I just don't know if I am overreacting. Does anyone else have a partner who has to travel with their work?
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You definitely aren’t overreacting… anything is possible pretty much from here onwards and in particular between the ‘full term’ window of 37-42 weeks. That said statistically it’s more likely you will go over your due date but there are women who birth early and 37/38/39 weeks are all common enough and you don’t know if you’ll be one or not. Labour typically starts slow and is longer first time round and you may get early signs something is happening but again that’s not a given as some women do have very quick labours even first time. It’s just too hard to predict. Most likely he would go and everything would be fine. Ideally though he wouldn’t travel so close to the due date just in case. Would work pay for an emergency flight back if needed? Flights last minute can cost a lot but if his work understand that might be needed then that could help ease the anxiety. If you have a contingency plan it may help but ideally would avoid.
I don’t think you’re overreacting, it’s a worry especially in your first pregnancy. It’s likely you’ll actually go over your due date though as very common with first babies. Personally I’d be fine with him going but I totally get it’s not the same for everyone. Hopefully he speaks to work and is able to sort something out 🤞🏼 my partner works away a lot but we’re lucky in the sense that it’s normally within a couple of hours drive from us so if anything was to happen he’d be able to get back x
My partner is also doing the same. I’ll be 37 weeks and he is away for 3 days so I have this worry too!
I don’t think you’re overreacting at all. I’ve said to mine that it’s up to him to make the decision to go and potentially miss out on his child’s birth if it does come to that but I’m also well aware it’s unlikely baby will come when he is away! X
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