Vent About Your Husband/Boyfriend Issues

Vent

My husband seems to have lost his mental clarity, he's been making threats of divorce, claiming he's only staying for the kids, and expressing a desire for space, and if possible, he would initiate divorce proceedings immediately, however, in NC, there's a mandatory one-year separation period, initially, I was saddened, but I decided to test his resolve, and essentially gave him permission to leave without waiting, now he's having second thoughts, I've lost interest in him, despite still having feelings for him, his hurtful comments have had a profound impact, and I've begun exploring other connections, I'm uncertain about the viability of our relationship, and I'm considering joining the military to regain stability for myself and my 2 children.

Read more on Peanut

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

Learn more about our guidelines.

Add a comment

Focus on what you need to do. If military seems a good option, then go for it! If he wants back in your life then he needs to prove it, and you guys start your relationship back at Square one. Dating as if you never have begot. Get to know each other again and re-ignite that spark you used to have. If you go your separate ways, then it is what it is and you've got yourself set to take care of your kids. However, i don't know what the courts will say in regards to you getting custody since your be joining the military at this point in your relationship... they might lean towards awarding him custody too keep the kids in their "home" state.... i don't know for sure about that, just something to consider!

Thank you 😊

in our community

NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

He has no respect for anything to do with me.

Husband and I decided to separate 3 days ago. I've been sleeping on the floor in the kids room, and we both have to stay in the same apartment for a while. He wont stop pushing little things and I am reaching my limit. Photos in comments

Toddlers

How often are your toddlers asking for food? My oldest who is 3 just finished a whole plate of food and not even 10 minutes later he’s requesting more food. I know he’s going through a growth spurt, but how do you respond to this.

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Identity crisis?

Am I the only sahm who feels like they have lost their identity??? I don’t make money for my family, when I used to make great money. But I refuse to drop my under a year old baby off with strangers.
My husband works so much. But I have no control over bringing in money and I’m a control freak type of person! I feel l like I’m losing my grip because we are kind of broke, but day care would only eat up my income anyways! So what’s the point. I’m a workaholic and now I’m just a twitching bum.
I wish I could work from home but so far that’s a fake dream. I’m almost 9 months pp, and I just need to know these awful mood swings and depression will end soon! Send wine!

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?